Making an optimal decision is not the same as simply making a decision in general. Do you think that it is not enough to simply resolve the problem, but that the situation needs to be resolved in the best possible way? Welcome to the camp of neurotic perfectionists. But seriously, every person from time to time in life comes to understand the concept of “hopeless situations.” And you need to gain experience interacting with them.
Two conditions
In fact, even the term itself is highly controversial. What is a no-win situation? This is a state of affairs in which certain actions are required, and they and only they can help change the situation. That is, the only correct decision is assumed and it is impossible to refuse this decision.
Technology is easier than life
As you can see, there are two conditions. The first condition is met for a huge number of situations in technical systems. That is, in situations where everything is simplified by man (and the technical system is deliberately made simple), it turns out that the solution is the only one and correct. That is, this is the first criterion of a hopeless situation.
Just inaction
But with the second it is more difficult. It is almost never observed - so there are no hopeless situations. So, in almost every situation, you can refuse to act at all. Yes, this will also cost some difficulties, but this is solution option number two. This means that the situation is no longer hopeless.
Backed into a corner?
You might think that if there is only one solution to a problem, then you cannot assign it the characteristic being discussed. But it should be remembered that hopeless situations are called that way not because of the lack of a solution, but because of the lack of freedom in the process of trying to improve the situation. It turns out that assigning status to this state of affairs is a little complicated. That is, a situation with no solutions at all and a situation with the inevitability of action with one solution option are hopeless situations.
Emotions get in the way
However, we must remember that a person’s assessment of a problem is often complicated by negative emotional perception. For example, it has been found that poor people tend to make worse financial decisions when faced with unplanned spending. Negative emotional perception worsened the situation several times. And the intelligence of those making the decision dropped by several dozen points. This is why it is so important to learn to work with emotions in difficult situations.
Subjectivism makes it difficult to understand
It is also necessary to be aware that you may see the situation differently from those around you. And it's quite possible that you don't notice additional features exit. Therefore, if you encounter “hopeless situations” too often, then you should make several friends who can help with analyzing the situation.
A little more psychology
And remember that the course of action begins “in the head.” Therefore, it is not so easy to solve a problem if mentally you have already failed. Of course, this does not mean that you should construct a fairy tale using methods and try to believe in it. Leave this to the gullible lovers of esotericism. But don't give up prematurely. Statistically, in difficult situations, the third or fourth solution often works, provided that the person does not give up. But before that you need to not stop active actions!
Due to lack Money Students living in a hostel or renting an apartment are forced to use tricks and be creative to save money. After all, DIY items can save you a lot of money, and this list of thrifty solutions to everyday problems is a great proof of that! Whether you're a student or just someone trying to cut costs, these ideas will inspire you to become more resourceful and think beyond standard solutions.
If your door is covered with snow, don’t be sad, but use the resulting snowdrift as a refrigerator
If your shower is broken and you can’t buy a shower hose, use this idea
Seeing a drinking fountain on the street, you can not only drink plenty of water, but also collect some for the road, in this way
Using two plastic bottles you can make improvised speakers
Don't have a trash can but have an extra stool? You know what to do!
If your side rear view mirror is broken and you happen to have a comb with a mirror at hand, then you can fix the situation
Don't have anything to heat up your pizza on? Use an iron and hair dryer. Strange, but effective!
If you have a coffee maker but don't have a saucepan, you can cook spaghetti in it
Lifehack for the most desperate! To avoid buying new socks, simply paint your nail black to match the color of the sock.
No skewers or barbecue, but a shopping cart? Now you know how to fry meat over a fire
If the pillow on your favorite sofa is torn or damaged, then a chair with a soft seat will come to your aid
A miracle of engineering technology
Glasses made from plastic bottles
Lifehack for the lazy
If your shower curtain for some reason does not have rings, then you can secure it with hangers
If you don’t have a mixer, you can use a drill instead by inserting a whisk
If for some reason you are missing part of your watch, then you can use this idea
If, while at the dacha, you want to fry sausages over a fire, but don’t have skewers at hand, then you can use a garden rake
If you are out and about but need to iron your clothes, you can use this method
No candles for your birthday cake? Use matches
There is always a way out, it’s 100%. It's just not necessarily the way you see it. It makes sense for you to look at the situation from the outside or rise higher above the clouds and look at it all from above. No emotions - just options. Take this situation away from yourself and imagine that this situation is someone else’s. Here are another man and woman, and they have the same situation.
Imagine that you are watching a movie. We love, when the series is on, to say: “No need, where are you going... Why are you with him again? Yes, he’s like that again, go over there.” We try to solve everything for the heroes, advise them the best option. So you advise this woman (yourself) what to do.
Imagine this is a series. Tell me what you think would be the right thing to do and what options there are. Is there an option to go to another country, to live with your parents? Why is this an obstacle for you? Changing your place of residence is interesting. There may be another man there. You can shake yourself up, change, change your life altogether.
An example from personal life
I'm actually from Ulyanovsk. I studied there. She got divorced there. And I can’t wrap my head around divorcing my husband and living in the same apartment with him. This is not for me. I didn’t even have this in my thoughts, I just got divorced and left right away. Moved, exchanged. That's it... Well, let's say, already in the process I decided that I was moving to live in Moscow.
I'm going there to earn money and look for work. Because I had just defended my dissertation and needed a job. The parents resisted very strongly at that time, and their daughter was only one and a half years old. They told me: “We won’t go with you, you won’t be able to go there.”
But I decided that I would go there anyway, life changes - that means it needs to be changed. It's easier to do this now. When some changes happen in life, it’s easier to change everything else to the heap. Here I am in Moscow, 2003. From now on I am in Moscow. In the first year, I managed to sell what I had in Ulyanovsk. We bought an apartment here.
That is, the parents arrived, the granddaughter and all that. And there were no other options for me, I didn’t think: “How will I live in Moscow?” Everyone lives, so I will live. There are problems that I solve that I try to look at positively. If I constantly think negatively, then, in general, life will turn out that way. This is also a definite scenario.
The situations can be very different. Someone has this: “I have a daughter, but I can’t change the apartment: my ex doesn’t give consent. I can only move to a new man.” But even here there are ways out. You can separate housing through the court. Once you separate your property through the court, you are assigned a certain number of square meters, and you can do whatever you want with them. You can sell them. Officially, the court will assign a certain number of rooms to you, and you can either sell them or change them. There are always options.
And even to the phrase “This is not profitable. “I won’t buy anything with this money,” one might object. What does "don't buy" mean? Finally, buy yourself a house outside the city. You need to find out, do something, watch and estimate. Not in this city, in another. And here the reluctance to do anything is clearly visible. If you do not see other options, then you will have exactly the option that you ordered for yourself. You can suffer like this for the rest of your life. It's sad, but that's how it is. Until you yourself want to change something in your life, you will always have various excuses: it’s not profitable, I won’t buy anything, I won’t succeed, or some other nonsense. If you wanted something and it didn’t happen, it means you didn’t really want it.
How do you cope with difficult situations?
We call a situation hopeless if we don't like the way out.
There are no hopeless situations, unnecessary people, random meetings and wasted time.
There are no people with whom it would always be easy to live. But there are those with whom you want to overcome difficulties.
I've had a lot of troubles in my life, most of which never happened.
There are such messages after which the heart beats faster and the hands tremble on the keyboard.
Clever man will find a way out of any difficult situation. The wise man will not find himself in this position.
Not only tea, gloves, and a blanket are warm. Everything can be warm - conversations, looks, letters, people. This is that special feeling that gives us strength: to live, believe, dream, love.
There are such dreams, after which, when you wake up, you lie for a long time with eyes closed in hopes of holding on to these moments.
It doesn’t matter how many friends you have, What matters is whether they will help you in a difficult situation!
There are people with souls as deep as the ocean, in whom you want to plunge. And there are people, like puddles, that you have to go around so as not to get dirty.
