Inappropriate situation. The basis of inappropriate human behavior. Ideal scenario: support

In life, people often face stressful situations that have a negative impact on their behavior. Some of these situations are temporary, while others can last a long time, causing negative consequences.

Stressful situations can leave an imprint on a person's behavior for life, for example, an unhappy childhood. A loss loved one, divorce can seriously change behavior for a while, but after that most people come to their senses. The main sources of inappropriate behavior:

External circumstances.

Internal or emotional state.

External circumstances

Most people succeed when they feel that the situation is under control, and sometimes they can even foresee one or another development of events. In this case, events are perceived as a challenge requiring action. But behavior can change radically if a person does not succeed the way he wanted. The main reasons for this:

Everyday stress

Stress is a state when everything is out of control and seems unpredictable. Stress is usually caused by:

Difficulties at work. The discrepancy between individual skills and requirements causes a feeling of inferiority that depresses a person.

Family and personal problems. Health problems, a stormy romance or a family tragedy completely take over a person. He cannot think about anything else, concentrating his attention only on these problems.

Excess of responsibilities. The need to meet standards and tight deadlines for completing tasks force people to take on too many responsibilities. Fear that it is impossible to achieve what you want has a bad effect on behavior.

We all react differently to the same stressful situations, but stressful situations affect all people the same.

Psychological trauma

Involvement in an incident, culpability, or threat to life can cause one type of stress - psychological trauma. Reactions to this situation vary, but generally people behave the same way. There may be three phases of behavior:

1. At first, the person gets upset and feels bad.

2. Then he becomes passive, does not want to do anything, but follows orders.

3. Then becomes irritable, anxious and unable to concentrate, causing him to have a strong emotional reaction.

People differ from each other in that they recover from trauma differently. Some recover quickly, while others do not; Some recover completely, while for others the psychological trauma leaves an imprint for the rest of their lives. You will be able to understand the behavior of another person and become more lenient towards him if you know about the psychological trauma he suffered in the past.

Alcohol and drugs

Alcohol and drugs can seriously affect a person's behavior. Usually they are resorted to in order to cope with unfavorable circumstances. Under the influence of alcohol and drugs, a person seems to cope with problems more easily. In some cases, they suppress a negative reaction and temporarily relieve worries about problems, and in some cases they stimulate vital activity and add confidence.

Solving problems with the help of alcohol or drugs evokes an association with a Russian doll: you open one doll and see the next one, etc. Each previous problem is directly related to the next one, but does not explain it. It is necessary to open the second, sixth, tenth to find out the reason.

Internal state

The psychological state of people largely depends on their internal mood, caused by physical and chemical changes in the body. Stress is often caused by anxiety and depression.

Anxiety. Most people feel anxious and tense in threatening or stressful situations. This is a normal reaction. But if someone feels anxiety in situations that others can easily cope with, then it is necessary to pay attention to this, because this is really a problem.

People who constantly feel anxious are always in a tense state. Most of the time they feel bad and are afraid of stressful situations. Concern about all sorts of problems does not allow you to concentrate and make any decisions. Such people often ask themselves questions: “Could I have foreseen the consequences?”, “Did I turn off the light in the bathroom?”

Despite the presence of a reason for such behavior (negative experience in the past, mental discomfort that prevents blocking feelings of concern with an inadequate reaction to what is happening), it is necessary to understand that although the person tries to control it, he cannot do it.

Depression. Few of us can live our whole lives calmly, without thinking about anything. It is not surprising that we feel despair or become depressed or sad because of events that have upset or worried us. But sometimes depression becomes chronic due to the fact that a person spends a long time in a tense environment and cannot do anything or simply cannot control his emotions. It turns out to be a vicious circle: a person cannot get out of depression and this makes him even more depressed. In such a state it is impossible to concentrate; it seems that you are unable to change anything, that there is no future. All persuasion and requests to “stop thinking like that, throw away bad thoughts and start acting” remain to no avail. All that can be done for such people is to treat them with understanding and compassion.

Signs of inappropriate behavior

First, you need to find out the reasons for the inadequate state, recognize the signs that indicate that a person has a problem.

In order to understand that a person is behaving unusually, you need to know what his behavior is normally. If a person doesn’t look like himself for a long time, then this is a sign that not everything is all right with him. Such warning signals, for example, could be:

Being late for work before a completely punctual person;

Indifference to everything is usually a cheerful and energetic person;

Manifestations of irritability for any reason before a completely balanced personality;

Untidy appearance a usually immaculate-looking person;

Unusual forgetfulness and neglect of details in a person who is scrupulous to the smallest detail;

Absent-mindedness and confusion in a well-organized person;

Concern and sadness in a carefree and cheerful person.

All of these signs signal personal problems, which are usually temporary, but in some cases can develop into permanent ones. Such changes are more often interpreted as a loss of interest in work or laziness. But this interpretation of signs signaling stress does not allow us to understand true reasons behavior changes.

Passion for alcohol

Signs of addiction to alcohol are not so easy to notice because a person’s behavior under the influence of alcohol is not always different from usual. But there are some signs you need to pay attention to, namely:

Unpredictable and inconsistent activity: one day a person works actively and effectively, the next he simply wastes time.

Unexplained “incidents” often happen to him;

He often experiences strange mood changes: today he is in good mood, sociable, jokes, and the next day - gloomy and depressed (the mood can change several times a day);

The person is often sick (colds, stomach pains) or often takes time off;

Invites others for drinks during lunch breaks or after work.

It is very difficult to determine whether a person abuses alcohol or not, since some people are good at hiding it. Therefore, it is advisable to analyze all the results of observing behavior and take into account the comments of other people. One identified case may not be enough to suspect someone of alcohol abuse. But, if there are many such cases, you need to pay attention and think about it. Conclusions should be drawn very carefully, because similar symptoms may signal other problems (constant irritability at work may indicate a tendency to gambling or drug use).

Therefore, before drawing any conclusion, you need to weigh all the evidence. If necessary, seek expert advice.

Drawing conclusions

Inappropriate behavior can be caused by various reasons. People react differently to circumstances, so it is not easy to determine the cause of their discomfort. Knowing some of the reasons for inappropriate behavior helps you better understand another person.

Ask yourself

Analyze how stress can affect people's behavior and answer the following questions:

^ Do you think people can become depressed if events are out of their control?

^ Do you understand that psychological trauma can influence a person's behavior?

^ Do you accept that some people abuse alcohol because they think it helps them cope with their problems?

^ Do you agree that anxiety and stress can influence behavior?

^ Do you think changing behavior is a sign of stress?

^Do you always notice that someone is behaving in a way that is out of character for them?

Everything will work out if...

Recognize that everyday stress can influence people's behavior;

Be aware of the destructive effects of psychological trauma;

Understand that anxiety can change behavior for the worse;

Accept that depression does not allow people to control what happens;

Understand that very often the presence of problems forces people to abuse alcohol;

Noticing that someone's behavior is significantly different from usual;

Understand that changes in behavior can signal that a person is under stress.

The editors of Lantern received a letter from Vladimir Rykov with a request to “spread information about the possible danger that lurks on the streets of our city.” The young man shared his fears: he and his wife and child periodically walk in Victory Park and meet one person there who “moves throughout the park, carries all kinds of garbage with him and, the strangest thing, pesters passers-by with a request to take a photo of him and send him photo on his page on VKontakte.”

Rykov wrote that the man they had repeatedly encountered “has a shabby appearance and strange things in his hands.” The author of the letter also studied the page of this unusual passerby on VKontakte. According to him, “the page is simply replete with very strange and sometimes frightening information. There are even videos with his participation, where he does not hesitate to use expressions addressed to various people, including those containing threats.” The author of the letter says that about 10 thousand people have subscribed to the VKontakte page of the person walking in the park. The applicant believes that the Belgorod resident referred to in the letter may pose a danger to himself and others, so he asked the editor for advice on what to do in this situation.

Soon after Vladimir Rykov’s letter, the editor received several more requests asking attention to the entry in the “Black List” group. Belgorod" with a request to parents to have conversations with their children and recommend that they not approach a person who walks around the city center.

- It’s not clear what’s in his head. He begs, asks for money (including from children), eats out of trash cans, collects bags of garbage, has an unpleasant smell, and has problems with the law. He posted a photo of his apartment on the page (but one of the children came to him and took these photos). He speaks threateningly about all residents of Belgorod, calls for reprisals, hates everyone, demands someone’s corpses on Belgorod Square, but he has more than 9 thousand subscribers, children read him. Unfortunately, the police will not respond until he has done something,” writes one of the Belgorod residents.

The author of the entry asks: “Is there any service at all that deals with such people? He needs medical care, and he needs to be protected from society, especially since his page is filled with negativity, obscenities and calls to “punish everyone.”

This post has received over 500 comments. Opinions can be conditionally divided into “defending”, whose authors talk about the need to help such people, and “condemning” - their authors point out the danger emanating from the hero of the recording.

After these requests, we turned to experts and learned from them what to do and who to contact if it seems that someone around us is behaving inappropriately and poses a danger to other people.

“It’s safer for doctors not to admit a patient to the hospital”

Psychiatrist Carolina Manachinskaya, referring to the federal law“On psychiatric care and guarantees of the rights of citizens during its provision,” explained that psychiatric care is provided upon the voluntary application of a person or with his consent.

- An exception is those cases when examination and treatment are possible only in a hospital setting, and the mental disorder is severe and can pose an immediate danger to the person or others. Also the basis for forced placement to a hospital may be a person’s inability to independently satisfy basic life needs, or the likelihood that, if assistance is not provided, significant harm will be caused to a person’s health due to a deterioration in mental condition without psychiatric help, the specialist said.

Carolina Manachinskaya explained that the decision on the validity of hospitalization is made by a commission of psychiatrists at a psychiatric institution. It must be convened within 48 hours of the person's involuntary hospitalization.

If hospitalization is considered justified, then the conclusion of the commission of psychiatrists is sent to the court within 24 hours. It is usually reviewed within five days from the date of hospitalization, and then the judge makes a decision on the need for involuntary hospitalization.

When a person's behavior may pose a danger to others, an ambulance is usually called. He is taken to the hospital, but they do not begin treatment without his consent, and he is simply under observation. A few days later a lawyer arrives and checks whether human rights are being violated, and then we have to wait for the court’s decision. Now the laws have become stricter, and psychiatrists are held criminally liable for the fact that a person may have been hospitalized inappropriately. In some ways, this can tie doctors' hands. It is easier and safer not to admit a patient to a hospital than to treat “forcibly”. If a person is not registered, there is no reason to place him in the hospital, even if his condition worsens.

The psychiatrist says that current legislation does not currently provide for any preventive measures in relation to the mentally ill.

If the patient behaves calmly in the presence of a psychiatrist, then he is not in danger of involuntary hospitalization. In fact, it is only possible if the person is under dispensary observation and his behavior is clearly destructive.

Carolina said that if a person thinks that a passerby on the street is behaving inappropriately and may be dangerous for him, he should try to exclude contact with him and not attract attention to himself.

If it happens that you have to communicate with this person, you need to behave calmly, speak in an even voice, and not ask questions. On the Internet, the security rules are the same: it is better not to start a correspondence, not to comment on his posts, not to give your personal data, because this can lead to people starting to track you down and persecute you, advises Karolina Manachinskaya.

Contact the police - officers must respond

The head of the information and public relations department of the Ministry of Internal Affairs of Russia for the Belgorod region, colonel of the internal service Alexey Goncharuk, said that in such situations, police officers are also guided by the law “On psychiatric care and guarantees of the rights of citizens in its provision.” Based on this document, they determine the indications for the need for medical intervention.

- In cases where a police officer suspects that a person is mentally ill, he can call an ambulance at the place of residence of this person or to the police department, if he is located there. A person’s behavior in such a situation should reflect actions that pose a threat to him or others.

In other cases, information regarding such citizens is sent by law enforcement agencies to the chief physician of the regional clinical psychoneurological hospital.

The police are also obliged to help health workers deliver to specialized medical institutions those people who are summoned there by court decision, but they do not comply with this decision. In case of involuntary hospitalization, the degree of aggressiveness of the patient is taken into account. If he has objects with him that could cause injury, they are confiscated.

The head of the information and public relations department of the Ministry of Internal Affairs of Russia for the Belgorod region recalled that police officers, together with medical workers, must monitor people suffering from mental disorders, alcoholism or drug addiction and posing a danger to others. This is done in order to prevent possible crimes and administrative violations. If information about a person was provided by medical workers, and he is registered as a preventive at one of the territorial police departments, preventive work is carried out with him: police officers systematically come to his home at least once a quarter to assess his condition.

Alexey Goncharuk explained that when apartment building one of the residents litters his apartment and staircase with garbage, has a lot of animals, does not comply with sanitary and hygienic standards, and is also subject to his own legislative norm.

- The owner of a residential premises is obliged to maintain it in proper condition, preventing mismanagement of it, to comply with the rights and legitimate interests of neighbors, the rules for the use of residential premises, as well as the rules for maintaining the common property of the owners of premises in an apartment building. Residents have the right to contact the police regarding such facts to record them and take action in accordance with current legislation.

The police must accept and register a statement or report of an offense, conduct an inspection if necessary, and take measures provided for by the legislation of the Russian Federation. The police must also inform complainants about the progress of such applications and refer them to other organizations if the solution to the problem is within their competence. For example, if sanitary and hygienic standards are not observed, based on the results of the inspection, the police send information to the Sanitary and Epidemiological Supervision authorities and the city department to consider bringing the perpetrators to administrative responsibility.

Learn to respect the freedom of others

Priest, psychologist Mikhail Artemenko said that if someone began to notice unusual behavior of a loved one, he could contact the Family Support Center at the Church of Peter and Fevronia.

- If people believe that their loved one is unwell, his behavior has changed, you need to find out what exactly they don’t like, what they fear. You definitely need to find an opportunity to talk with the person about whom your loved ones are worried. This conversation should be voluntary, it is necessary that the person himself wants to come talk and talk about what is happening to him. “A slave is not a pilgrim” - there is such a phrase. You can’t do anything to a person involuntarily, you can only call on him,” the psychologist explained.

Mikhail Artemenko says that the priest must understand why a person’s habitual way of life may change.

When changing behavior, it happens that we assume the influence of religious organizations of a totalitarian nature on a person. We need to rule it out or confirm it. If confirmed, then there will be two scenarios: if the organization’s activities are prohibited in our country, we must contact law enforcement agencies. If not, again, we can only talk. When there is a suspicion of a possible mental illness, we can give relatives a recommendation to talk to the person about visiting a neurologist or psychiatrist. Then it’s up to the relatives to see how they can persuade and correctly lead their loved one to this. In general, convincing someone to go to a psychiatrist is quite difficult; pride kicks in: “How am I sick?”

If a person exhibits violent behavior, other levers of influence may be used, for example, calling an ambulance. I would also like to add that the behavior of another, which we may not like, is a delicate issue. It’s just that we often want the thoughts and feelings of another to correspond to our ideas about them. And it is important to learn to respect the freedom of others. Maybe someone likes to go out at night and look at the stars for hours, but we don’t understand this. Those same holy fools always had behavior that was incomprehensible and inexplicable to the majority. Well, there’s another good phrase: “Judge not, lest you be judged.”

Any “other citizen” can apply

Director of the legal company "Charter" Alexandra Bereslavtseva believes that caution must be exercised in such situations.

- Before talking about hospitalization, it is necessary to establish whether there are grounds to resort to such extreme measures as forced restriction of a person’s freedom. If you don’t like that your neighbor or acquaintance is acting “strange,” this does not mean that he has mental problems. And even if there is, this does not mean that he can be forcibly hospitalized, otherwise such measures can be used for non-medical purposes and harm the health, dignity and rights of citizens.

In accordance with article four of the law “On psychiatric care and guarantees of the rights of citizens during its provision,” psychiatric care is provided upon voluntary application and with consent to medical intervention, except for cases expressly provided for by law.

Moreover, forced hospitalization or other restriction of the rights of persons suffering from mental disorders solely on the basis of a psychiatric diagnosis in accordance with the law is unacceptable.

Alexandra Bereslavtseva explained in what situations compulsory psychiatric care can be provided.

If a person poses an immediate danger to himself or others, cannot independently satisfy the basic needs of life, his health deteriorates without the provision of psychiatric care, then, on the basis of Article 23 of the above-mentioned law, a psychiatric examination of this person can be carried out without his consent or without the consent of his legal representative.

What is inadequacy?

At the same time, the exit is conscious, obvious and conditioned by one’s own motives. Inadequacy differs from irrationality in that an unreasonable person makes mistakes and acts incorrectly due to delusions, misunderstanding of things, distortion of ideas by some irrational, but well-defined motives, i.e. his actions are incorrect, but explainable, while an inadequate person commits unacceptable and abnormal actions on purpose, realizing this. Inappropriate behavior violates agreements, or intuitively implied mutually beneficial methods of interaction, interferes with the normal functioning of society and leads to tension and conflict. Acting inappropriately, a person consciously tries to break or deform the norms of society in his favor in order to receive from this one or another benefit, material or psychological.

For example, when several people stand in line and someone pushes them aside and tries to buy a product first, this is inappropriate because it contradicts the implied rules of behavior. Also, inadequacy is, for example, when a teacher begins to extort a bribe from a student in order to give a test, when on the street someone takes from you by deception or force mobile phone when the police department is trying to force you to confess to a crime that you obviously did not commit, etc.

Inadequacy in modern society and features of its manifestation

Despite the fact that most people are accustomed to living in a relatively stable society, among relatively normal people, there are many, many inadequacies in modern society. Of course, society usually does not welcome inadequacy and tries to condemn, suppress and correct it. But in certain places and during certain periods, inadequacy becomes so widespread that it completely replaces or suppresses the generally accepted norms of a healthy society. This happens, for example, during periods of war, natural disasters, unrest, when control of the situation is seized by crime, or by regimes guided by criminal ideas, such as the fascist one. Sometimes inadequate principles and manifestations dominate in society for a very long time, for example, distorted by the Catholic and Protestant churches for more than 500 years Western Europe the principles of Christianity served as a justification for genocide and the enslavement of other peoples, and within Europe itself - for witch hunts, when almost anyone could be accused of witchcraft or heresy and burned at the stake on delusional charges. Unfortunately, inadequacy still too often takes precedence over generally accepted norms, morality and basic common sense.

What is the reason for the inadequacy? Inappropriate behavior can appear in people for various reasons. Among them may be the following.

“Teaching” inadequacy occurs when certain unnatural ideas, traditions, patterns of behavior appear that have persistent followers who, by their example, and often through direct propaganda and coercion, encourage others to accept the same unnatural, inadequate attitudes. Radical fascist, religious etc. organizations, youth criminal groups, clans and sects. In addition, inadequacy can be forcibly instilled in a family, in some state or commercial organization where unscrupulous employees have gained the upper hand, and, in principle, in any community and team where inadequacies have been able to set the tone. When “learning”, as a rule, social norms are not denied at all, but only partially or partially deformed. At the same time, a significant stimulus for inappropriate behavior is the herd instinct, the example of other inappropriate people and the absence of sufficiently pronounced and strong opposition and counterexamples.

“Revenge” is a motive of inadequacy when a person, having been subjected to various injustices, humiliations, violation of his rights by others, comes to the denial of social norms and morality, or to their specific understanding and decides that if others can behave as they want, then he can (has the right). People who grew up or have lived for a long time in an unfavorable environment, or who are participants in various armed conflicts and confrontations (especially those that last a long time and are chronic) often come to inadequacy for similar reasons. In general, the escalation of any conflicts, if there is no force capable of resolutely stopping them and establishing order, while making fair decisions, and different warring parties set the tone, leads to gradual degradation and the abolition of moral restrictions by all their parties.

The “connivance effect” is a motive caused by the fact that people who, by duty or tradition, must be responsible for maintaining order and generally accepted norms in society, show weak character and do not demonstrate a worthy example. Most people are such that even if they are determined to behave adequately, they require constant reinforcement in this mood. If there is no such reinforcement, psychologically this is perceived as “permission” to behave inappropriately. The extent to which this motive manifests itself depends on various reasons, primarily on the extent to which society encourages people to be responsible and entrusts them with the task of independently assessing the correctness of actions (both their own and those of others), their admissibility, compliance with moral standards, and the interests of society. , common sense. If this task is largely entrusted not to individuals, but to “controllers” - the state, party, church, etc., then a sharp removal or weakening of such control can lead to the most disastrous consequences.

“Ambition” is a motive associated with the fact that a person consciously puts himself above others and has a disdainful attitude towards society. Such a motive can be justified by views such as “life is a struggle for existence” and “who is stronger is right,” or not justified at all. This motive is often formed by those who notice that the weak can be suppressed for their own benefit, without encountering adequate opposition (neither from them nor from society). Quite a few of these people appear in the environment of organized crime or among those vested with significant powers of power and status (very rich, famous, etc.). Most people prefer not to get involved with people who are too arrogant, aggressive, or “cool,” which only encourages inappropriate people.

“Forced reaction” is a motive associated with the situational manifestation of an inadequate reaction, when a person does not see the correct, “legal” from the point of view of morality and generally accepted norms of exit in order to suppress evil, injustice, etc. This is the most difficult case when the person himself In a normal situation, he may have high intelligence, moral principles, etc., but at a certain moment, instead of the optimal way to counteract evil and other inadequacies, he may choose a cardinal one, sharply “going too far.” A typical example is Marvin Heemeyer, who bulldozed part of a city after being cornered by the corporation and local authorities. Despite the fact that such inadequacy is situational, it can be guided by the conviction that the end justifies the means, and that in an imperfect society it is impossible to act differently, it will not be possible to resist evil differently. Unfortunately, society is such that decisive and tough opposition to many inadequate people is necessary, and even if it is weak and insufficient, there will be those who blame not the evil itself, but those who fight it, finding in their actions a formal violation of moral norms. However, almost all the forces that had a positive, progressive influence on the development of society often acted too radically, too cruelly, too much (though there were no less examples when it was “not bent”, and this also led to disastrous consequences) . One way or another, reasonable people, when attacking inadequate people, must still try to act correctly and proportionately, and not allow “excesses” in their actions.

As I have already noted, most people still condemn inadequacy and strive to resist it. Why is there so much, so much inadequacy? main reason The point is that, due to the unreasonableness of the majority and their propensity for emotional thinking, inadequate people can easily manipulate public opinion. Inadequate people are capable of using a lot of tricks that can denigrate honest people and present themselves in a better light in order to induce the majority of society to either help themselves, or at least stand aside, while they deal with the few who still try to help them. resist. For example, the leader of the Chicago mafia, Al Capone, called “enemy number one” by the American police, committed murders with impunity for many years, including personally in front of many witnesses, but created for himself the image of a respectable, influential businessman helping the poor, and everything went well for him from hand In the end, he was convicted only of tax evasion. Emotionally minded people are not able to identify inadequacy in its pure form in the world around them and evaluate it in order to then counteract it. As a rule, some manifestation of inadequacy, some inadequate force in their perception appears as a combination of positive and negative traits, at the same time, they cannot correctly compare them, identify the main and secondary essence, and often, attracted by secondary positive features, they support inadequate manifestation or strength, or they are inactive when they need to resist, which leads to disastrous consequences.

Exaggerating in your actions, intentions and plans positive features, and their opponents have negative ones (real or imaginary), inadequate people often present the forced advancement of evil as a struggle after evil. Very indicative and clear in this regard, for example, is the history of the Nazis coming to power in Germany, and then Hitler unleashing the Second World War. Many people saw the Nazis as allies to solve some problems, not considering them too dangerous and not wanting to see their true essence and intentions. Thus, they opened the way for them to power and easy conquests, when this party, which was initially a very insignificant force, step by step eliminated its opponents and realized its ambitions. In the same way, today many blind people do not want to see the danger in the actions of the United States, which covers up its aggressive plans with the struggle for freedom and democracy, and its true goals - the desire for world domination.

Reaction to inadequacy and methods of struggle

In modern society, where many inadequacies are organized, enjoy the patronage of the authorities, and the majority are blind and unreasonable, it is often very difficult to fight inadequacy. Let us still consider the basic principles of combating inadequacy and the problems that arise in this case.

Problems could be, for example, the following:
1) You are weak, and inadequate people are strong.
2) Society is not ready to support you and generally perceives the situation incorrectly.
3) You find it difficult to determine the boundary between unreasonableness and inadequacy in the behavior of inadequate people - either they consciously and consistently act inappropriately, which means they need to be firmly opposed, or their actions are the result of stupidity and misunderstanding and they can be reasoned with, explained, and come to an agreement with them.
4) You don’t see what is acceptable, “legal”, but at the same time, effective way to counteract the inadequate, only extreme radical measures come to mind.

Principles.

1) Inadequacy must be fought. Of course, this is obvious, but nuances arise that lead to the fact that many, if not the majority, seeing inadequacy, do not even try to fight it. This stems, moreover, most often not from fear, indecision, etc., but from the illusion that inadequacy is not dangerous and too minor, that it will go away on its own over time, or for the reason that the rest will do good deeds, set a positive example, improve society, and the inadequate ones, seeing this, will also correct themselves. And this illusion is very widespread in society. However, not fighting inadequacy is a very bad idea.

Of course, it happens that someone who behaves inappropriately, after some time, repents, corrects himself, and realizes the wrongness of his previous behavior. But this happens when the rudiments of rationality and common sense already exist in a person and potentially they prevail over defects. The correct reaction to inadequacy will only help such a person to improve faster; perhaps even a one-time correct reaction will be enough to cure him. The main thing is that such a reaction is accompanied by the right message, helping a person to realize the inappropriateness, incorrectness, and inadequacy of his behavior, and to question those ideas based on which he behaves inappropriately. In addition, one can easily make the mistake of mistaking inadequacy for simply stupidity, ostentatious tomfoolery, which will go away on its own. It is more correct to proceed from the principle “if a person behaves as if he is inadequate, then he is actually inadequate.”

But very often the opposite is true. Without receiving the proper reaction, a person becomes convinced of the effectiveness of inappropriate behavior. Without suppressing inadequacy in the bud, we get inadequacy in the future in a more obvious, neglected, difficult to eradicate form, to suppress which we will have to make much more effort. In addition, by not giving one inadequate person a blow, we can thereby encourage other unstable individuals to follow his example.

In addition, it very often happens that an inadequate person, who was not corrected in time, begins to feel the limits of the permissibility of his inadequacy. At the same time, as long as he sees the threat of an open clash with society, he does not cross this line, but as soon as the opportunity arises to “prove” himself, due to the fall of some restrictions, the inadequate breaks loose. Thus, a total and irreconcilable fight against inadequacy is also necessary to prevent the accumulation of a hidden threat in society.

2) Inadequacy must be fought decisively and to the end. The only thing worse than no response to inappropriate behavior is a weak, ineffective and clearly indecisive response. It can only motivate an inadequate person to increase the degree of inadequacy, increase pressure in order to break your resistance. Episodic and uncertain opposition from society is more likely to lead an inadequate person not to the idea that he needs to stop spoiling society, but to the idea that he needs to achieve his goal more decisively and effectively.

So, what should the ideal reaction be? Firstly, it is unambiguous, clear and hits the right point. Of course, it is not always easy to understand well enough the motives behind inappropriate manifestations. But it is advisable to try to at least roughly define them and deliver a psychologically and logically precise blow, that is, to accurately formulate the essence of the inadequate manifestation that you demand to stop. For example, someone unmotivatedly insults you in a rude manner. An answer like “he’s a fool” won’t be very good. good option. It’s better to ask why he behaves this way and dares to insult you. An inaccurate requirement will give the inadequate person a reason to continue his inappropriate behavior, evading your claims. Secondly, the reaction must be proportionately harsh. You must make it clear to the inadequate person that you are determined and principled and are definitely not going to leave his antics just like that. Of course, in most cases, your goal is to psychologically defeat the inadequate person, force him to retreat and admit the error of his inadequate behavior. But against the most aggressive and dangerous inadequates, it is better to immediately prepare and apply measures to physically neutralize them. Thirdly, the fight against inadequacy must be carried through to the end, that is, to ensure that the inadequate person realizes his mistakes and voluntarily gives up inappropriate behavior without repeating it again, or is neutralized (if he is especially stubborn and dangerous) and physically deprived opportunities to implement it.

At the same time, it is clear that you are unlikely to be able to replace law enforcement agencies and chase after every inappropriate person you come across in order to correct him; only a society that purposefully pursues an appropriate policy can systematically and consistently combat inadequacy and successfully eradicate it.

3) You need to competently attract society to your side. As already written above, there are reasons why society does not counteract inadequacy and even supports it. You must, taking into account these features, competently attract society to your side, and deprive the inadequate ones of support. You must isolate inadequacy from some more general manifestations, separate it and focus on it, concentrating the attention of society on it. If the inadequates have significant support, it is necessary to propose solutions that preserve the positive aspects in the behavior of the inadequates and their plans, but remove the negative ones. If inadequate people insist on their own, this will show everyone that positive traits are secondary, and all their activity is aimed at implementing the negative part of the program. Patiently and consistently demand condemnation of the inadequacy you have identified and the agreement of the entire normal part of society with the need to suppress it.

Another method that can be used is escalation and escalation of the situation in which there is a manifestation of inadequacy in order to attract the attention of society, as well as to ensure that inadequate manifestations and the negative consequences to which they lead, the fact of their contradiction to the interests of society and their unacceptable behavior has become more visible to society. This, of course, is worth doing if you are sure that the healthy part of society will organize and rise up to suppress inadequacy, or, for example, the authorities will intervene and will not be able to ignore public opinion and not take action.

Precedents largely influence how at ease the inadequate will feel. If a case (or even more so, several cases) of inappropriate behavior that has become widely known is not stopped, this actually sends a signal that such behavior is acceptable. It stimulates such manifestations of inadequate people, and demoralizes normal people and instills doubts in the need to counteract inadequate ones. On the contrary, if a certain case became known when inappropriate behavior was decisively suppressed, this instills uncertainty in inappropriate people and determination in normal people. To create such precedents of the second type, you can use suitable cases, and it is advisable not to ignore the precedents of the first type and not allow them to play into the hands of inadequate ones. In general, if possible, especially in the case of massive inappropriate manifestations, it is necessary to seek to delegitimize inadequacy and introduce into the public consciousness the idea of the decisive inadmissibility of such inappropriate manifestations.

4) We need to wage war on inadequacy in general. Inadequacy will always be a threat to society, so you always need to prepare for a war with inadequacy in general and wage this war. If inadequate people do not threaten you today, this does not mean that you will not encounter them tomorrow. Therefore, it is necessary to consistently identify inadequate people, create mechanisms to combat them, unite the healthy part of society and take measures against its split. It is necessary to accumulate strength both for the physical fight against the inadequate, and for the informational and psychological struggle, so that the inadequate cannot decompose and demoralize society and use false ideas for their own purposes. At the moment, it is the inadequate ones, unfortunately, who have well mastered the methods of struggle against the healthy part of society and we can clearly see examples of their impressive victories - this is, for example, the successful US operation against the USSR, when they managed to collapse the USSR and the socialist camp, or the recent coup d'etat in Ukraine. There is no doubt that a significant part of the inadequate will not give up their ambitions and will stop at nothing, and a brutal struggle with them in the process of building a reasonable society is inevitable.

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Many have heard the term “inappropriate behavior” more than once and, without delving into the intricacies of this concept, always associate it with a violation of a person’s mental activity. Simply put, we consider people who behave inappropriately to be mentally ill or schizophrenic. To some extent, this judgment is fair, but the problem is not in how we call this or that manifestation of the illness of the people around us, but in our reaction and understanding of the need to provide timely assistance to such people. Do you agree that this is much more important and more humane in relation to the patient than labeling him “schizophrenic”, “psychopath” and others?

So what is this - inappropriate behavior, how is it expressed, how dangerous is it for the patient and others? Is it necessary to seek help from psychiatrists, and what results can be expected from treatment in case of inappropriate human behavior?

The first thing you need to know is that inappropriate behavior is a visible manifestation of existing or emerging serious mental illnesses. We should also not forget that the understanding of the term “inappropriate behavior” at the everyday level does not always correspond to the actual presence of any mental illness in the person to whom we apply it. This is a very important and noteworthy aspect. Groundless, undeserved or thoughtless accusing a person of inappropriate behavior can have very unpleasant and sometimes unpredictable consequences.

How does inappropriate behavior manifest itself?

Inappropriate behavior can manifest itself in persistent, pronounced aggression towards others.

In fact, aggressiveness is characteristic of every person, it is necessary and sometimes useful. For example, without moderate aggression, it is difficult to advance in your career or coexist in human society. By suppressing healthy aggression, we often block some vital actions and decisions.

But aggression can also be a reaction to pain, insult, or irritation. If this type of aggression, the unhealthy kind, predominates, problems arise in the mental sphere and personal relationships. Dominant aggressive behavior can be directed at oneself, others, and, often indiscriminately, thereby bringing destruction to the individual, family, and loved ones. Often an attack of aggression rolls in like a wave, and when it subsides, it greatly depletes the body and rarely leaves regrets or guilt. In this case, aggression needs to be treated.

Adults who are aware of changes in their behavior usually respond to treatment more quickly and effectively, but adolescents are also highly susceptible to attacks of aggression. Sometimes they seem to provoke adults into screaming and beating. But remember, this aggression is a cry for help. Teenagers often think of themselves as bad; Having received a portion of indignation, they seem to be confirmed in the opinion “I am bad, no one loves me.” Correct behavior of adults - sufficient attention to the teenager and periodic consultation with specialists will help preserve his personality and prevent the formation of pathology in development itself. When treating aggression, the specialist and the patient, first of all, must achieve two main results: reducing aggression in general and preventing aggression in the future.

Considering the rhythm of modern life, nutritional imbalances, temporary shifts and many other negative factors, it is not surprising that disorders occur in the human body. Mental discord, aggression, insomnia, and depression become entrenched over time, gradually increasing tenfold. Unhealthy, excessive aggressiveness is the same disease.

We don’t like to neglect teeth, intestinal diseases, or colds, but we trigger illnesses of the soul, often turning into twitchy, inadequate creatures. A qualified psychotherapist, correct diagnosis and successful treatment will turn you back into a Human. After all, “Man sounds proud.”

Inappropriate behavior can also manifest itself in the manifestation of painful isolation not determined by the character of a person and a sharp narrowing of the range of interests. Obsessive actions that do not have a sound explanation, performing any rituals not related to religious beliefs, in reasoning that is not related to the surrounding reality and many other symptoms. All of the above signs may be a manifestation of existing or developing forms of such serious mental illnesses as schizophrenia (psychosis). In some cases, the cause of persistent inappropriate behavior may be advanced forms of severe depression.

Help for patients with inappropriate behavior

Regardless of the reasons for inappropriate behavior, the patient must be shown to qualified doctors to undergo appropriate examination and treatment. A timely visit to a specialist will help determine the causes of inappropriate behavior, make an accurate diagnosis and choose a course. necessary treatment which will lead to recovery.

Modern methods treatment mental disorders make it possible to quite successfully and effectively help people with inappropriate behavior. The main thing is not to forget that our body always sends us timely signals for help, and whether we hear it or not depends only on us.

Multifaceted diagnostics, the high professional level of our doctors, combined with qualified comprehensive treatment, progressive methods of social and labor rehabilitation, will return your loved ones to a full life.

What is inadequacy?

First, let's consider what we mean by inadequacy. We understand by this that a person’s behavior and his claims, intentions and plans go beyond the framework of generally accepted norms, elementary common sense, beyond the framework of behavior that is natural to achieve an optimal result that is mutually beneficial for the people involved in the interaction. At the same time, the exit is conscious, obvious and conditioned by one’s own motives. Inadequacy differs from irrationality in that an unreasonable person makes mistakes and acts incorrectly due to delusions, misunderstanding of things, distortion of ideas by some irrational, but well-defined motives, i.e. his actions are incorrect, but explainable, while an inadequate person commits unacceptable and abnormal actions on purpose, realizing this. Inappropriate behavior violates agreements, or intuitively implied mutually beneficial methods of interaction, interferes with the normal functioning of society and leads to tension and conflict. Acting inappropriately, a person consciously tries to break or deform the norms of society in his favor in order to receive from this one or another benefit, material or psychological.

For example, when several people stand in line and someone pushes them aside and tries to buy a product first, this is inappropriate because it contradicts the implied rules of behavior. Also, inadequacy is, for example, when a teacher begins to extort a bribe from a student in order to give a test, when on the street someone takes your mobile phone by deception or force, when at the police station they try to force you to confess to a crime that you obviously did not commit, etc. . P.

Inadequacy in modern society and features of its manifestation

Despite the fact that most people are accustomed to living in a relatively stable society, among relatively normal people, there is a lot, a lot of inadequacy in modern society. Of course, society usually does not welcome inadequacy and tries to condemn, suppress and correct it. But in certain places and during certain periods, inadequacy becomes so widespread that it completely replaces or suppresses the generally accepted norms of a healthy society. This happens, for example, during periods of war, natural disasters, unrest, when control of the situation is seized by crime, or by regimes guided by criminal ideas, such as the fascist one. Sometimes inadequate principles and manifestations dominate in society for a very long time, for example, for more than 500 years, the principles of Christianity distorted by the Catholic and Protestant churches in Western Europe served as a justification for genocide and enslavement of other peoples, and within Europe itself - for witch hunts, when almost anyone could be accused of witchcraft or heresy and burned at the stake on delusional charges. Unfortunately, inadequacy still too often takes precedence over generally accepted norms, morality and basic common sense.

What is the reason for the inadequacy? Inappropriate behavior can appear in people for various reasons. Among them may be the following.

The “connivance effect” is a motive caused by the fact that people who, by duty or tradition, must be responsible for maintaining order and generally accepted norms in society, show weak character and do not demonstrate a worthy example. Most people are such that even if they are determined to behave adequately, they require constant reinforcement in this mood. If there is no such reinforcement, psychologically this is perceived as “permission” to behave inappropriately. The extent to which this motive manifests itself depends on various reasons, primarily on the extent to which society encourages people to be responsible and entrusts them with the task of independently assessing the correctness of actions (both their own and those of others), their admissibility, compliance with moral standards, and the interests of society , common sense. If this task is largely entrusted not to individuals, but to “controllers” - the state, party, church, etc., then a sharp removal or weakening of such control can lead to the most disastrous consequences.

As I have already noted, most people still condemn inadequacy and strive to resist it. Why is there so much, so much inadequacy? The main reason is that due to the unreasonableness of the majority and their tendency towards emotional thinking, inadequate people can easily manipulate public opinion. Inadequate people are capable of using a lot of tricks that can denigrate honest people and present themselves in a better light in order to induce the majority of society to either help themselves, or at least stand aside, while they deal with the few who still try to help them. resist. For example, the leader of the Chicago mafia, Al Capone, called “enemy number one” by the American police, committed murders with impunity for many years, including personally in front of many witnesses, but created for himself the image of a respectable, influential businessman helping the poor, and everything went well for him from hand In the end, he was convicted only of tax evasion. Emotionally minded people are not able to identify inadequacy in its pure form in the world around them and evaluate it in order to then counteract it. As a rule, some manifestation of inadequacy, some inadequate strength in their perception appears as a combination of positive and negative traits, while they cannot correctly compare them, highlight the main and secondary essence, and often, attracted by secondary positive traits, they support the inadequate manifestation or strength, or they do not act when they need to resist, which leads to disastrous consequences.

Exaggerating positive traits in their actions, intentions and plans, and exaggerating negative ones (real or imaginary) in their opponents, inadequate people often present the forced advancement of evil as a struggle after evil. Very indicative and clear in this regard, for example, is the history of the Nazis coming to power in Germany, and then Hitler unleashing the Second World War. Many people saw the Nazis as allies to solve some problems, not considering them too dangerous and not wanting to see their true essence and intentions. Thus, they opened the way for them to power and easy conquests, when this party, which was initially a very insignificant force, step by step eliminated its opponents and realized its ambitions. In the same way, today many blind people do not want to see the danger in the actions of the United States, which covers up its aggressive plans with the struggle for freedom and democracy, and its true goals - the desire for world domination.

Reaction to inadequacy and methods of struggle

Problems could be, for example, the following:
1) You are weak, and inadequate people are strong.
2) Society is not ready to support you and generally perceives the situation incorrectly.
3) You find it difficult to determine the boundary between unreasonableness and inadequacy in the behavior of inadequate people - either they consciously and consistently act inappropriately, which means they need to be firmly opposed, or their actions are the result of stupidity and misunderstanding and they can be reasoned with, explained, and come to an agreement with them.
4) You don’t see an acceptable, “legal”, but at the same time, effective way to counteract inadequate people; only extreme radical measures come to mind.

Principles.

So, what should the ideal reaction be? Firstly, it is unambiguous, clear and hits the right point. Of course, it is not always easy to understand well enough the motives behind inappropriate manifestations. But it is advisable to try to at least roughly define them and deliver a psychologically and logically precise blow, that is, to accurately formulate the essence of the inadequate manifestation that you demand to stop. For example, someone unmotivatedly insults you in a rude manner. An answer like “he’s a fool” would not be a very good option. It’s better to ask why he behaves this way and dares to insult you. An inaccurate requirement will give the inadequate person a reason to continue his inappropriate behavior, evading your claims. Secondly, the reaction must be proportionately harsh. You must make it clear to the inadequate person that you are determined and principled and are definitely not going to leave his antics just like that. Of course, in most cases, your goal is to psychologically defeat the inadequate person, force him to retreat and admit the error of his inadequate behavior. But against the most aggressive and dangerous inadequates, it is better to immediately prepare and apply measures to physically neutralize them. Thirdly, the fight against inadequacy must be carried through to the end, that is, to ensure that the inadequate person realizes his mistakes and voluntarily gives up inappropriate behavior without repeating it again, or is neutralized (if he is especially stubborn and dangerous) and physically deprived opportunities to implement it.

3) You need to competently attract society to your side. As already written above, there are reasons why society does not counteract inadequacy and even supports it. You must, taking into account these features, competently attract society to your side, and deprive the inadequate ones of support. You must isolate inadequacy from some more general manifestations, separate it and focus on it, concentrating the attention of society on it. If the inadequates have significant support, it is necessary to propose solutions that preserve the positive aspects in the behavior of the inadequates and their plans, but remove the negative ones. If inadequate people insist on their own, this will show everyone that positive traits are secondary, and all their activity is aimed at implementing the negative part of the program. Patiently and consistently demand condemnation of the inadequacy you have identified and the agreement of the entire normal part of society with the need to suppress it.

4) We need to wage war on inadequacy in general. Inadequacy will always be a threat to society, so you always need to prepare for a war with inadequacy in general and wage this war. If inadequate people do not threaten you today, this does not mean that you will not encounter them tomorrow. Therefore, it is necessary to consistently identify inadequate people, create mechanisms to combat them, unite the healthy part of society and take measures against its split. It is necessary to accumulate strength both for the physical fight against the inadequate, and for the informational and psychological struggle, so that the inadequate cannot decompose and demoralize society and use false ideas for their own purposes. At the moment, it is the inadequate ones, unfortunately, who have well mastered the methods of struggle against the healthy part of society and we can clearly see examples of their impressive victories - this is, for example, the successful US operation against the USSR, when they managed to collapse the USSR and the socialist camp, or the recent coup d'etat in Ukraine. There is no doubt that a significant part of the inadequate will not give up their ambitions and will stop at nothing, and a brutal struggle with them in the process of building a reasonable society is inevitable.