How often do you hear or say yourself: “He became attached to her (I became attached to him)?” Have you thought about how LITERALLY these words convey the essence of what was said.
Let's distinguish between two concepts: energy channel and energy binding.
Energy channels arise as a given during the communication of two people, through these channels there is an interchange of energy. Without energy connections with other people, a person cannot survive, they cannot be removed, this will violate human nature.
Attachment is also a channel, but here we are dealing with an energy disturbance.
Binding is based on a person's dependence on something or someone, which means it contradicts the main Divine Law, which says: every person is free.
The danger of energy bindings lies not only in stopping development, but also in the fact that a skilled manipulator through this binding can cause negative emotions, the origin of which will be difficult to trace.
In the process of life, almost every person creates energy bindings for himself, not even suspecting how much this complicates his being. These bindings do not allow a person to fully develop. A person without development degrades.
The reason for the appearance of bindings is a violation by a person of the Laws of Divine development. Negative emotions form bindings for the corresponding chakras:
Muladhara (base chakra) - fear, aggression.
Svadhisthana (sex chakra) - lust, obsession.
Manipura (navel chakra) - submission, or vice versa, the desire for power.
Anahata (heart chakra) - love and hate.
Vishuddha (throat chakra) - the desire for self-realization.
Ajna (frontal chakra) - bindings to what a person considers truth, principles and attitudes.
Sahasrara (crown chakra) - bindings to egregors.
On the subtle plane, bindings are seen in the form of tubes of different diameters, through which energy of various colors and consistencies flows.
It is not the bindings themselves that are dangerous, they are just energy channels, but a certain energy of disruption in interaction - when people are not free, and try to subjugate the other.
Attachments make communication difficult. At the same time, a person will feel a strong attraction to the one to whom he is attached. The degree of strength of the bindings is very high, they deprive a person of freedom and impede his spiritual development.
The binding may appear against the will. For example, when an astral attack is made, a binding is formed between the one who attacked and the one who was attacked. This is a trace of interaction.
Bindings can be created artificially. The action of love spells is based on the artificial creation of bindings. In this case, the binding point is visualized in the form of hooks, nuts, latches, knots and other fastening methods. Lapels destroy bindings and block energy channels. These actions belong to the rituals of black magic.
Anchors can be active or passive, depending on whether energy flows through them.
Resentment. This feeling is considered one of the strongest, negatively affecting health. The fact is that when offended, a person again and again returns with thoughts to the offender, generously giving his life energy to him.
Revenge, the desire to prove one's case. It is difficult to forget and let go of a person when every now and then you scroll through an ominous plan of retribution in your head, imagine what you will say to him, what kind of face he will then have, etc. and so on.
Guilt. Here we are dealing with aggression directed at oneself. These deprive yourself of the right to make mistakes. Guilt is an unproductive emotion, because a person does not correct what he has done, but engages in self-flagellation. An individual who feels guilty before another often thinks about how to beg forgiveness from that other and what can be done to make amends. The result is a strong bond.
material losses. An unpaid debt binds two people for a long time, while the larger the amount, the stronger the binding. However, the one who gives a loan still has a way out: mentally say goodbye to his money, as if they were lost, and sincerely forgive the debtor. Imagine that he gave him this money for his birthday, for example. The debtor's situation is worse, no matter how hard he tries, he will not be able to forget the one to whom he owes money. The only way to get rid of the attachment is to pay off your debt or work it off. Robbery, theft, fraud - all this also forms the binding between the offender and the victim. Conclusion: get rid of attachment to money and things.
A sense of obligation to repay a service rendered. Here, too, there is a sense of duty, but the duty is not material. “Now I owe you,” one person says to another, thus creating a powerful attachment. Debts must be repaid, but then we forget that another person voluntarily did a good deed for us, and in this case, sincere gratitude is enough.
People live together, but in fact they are already strangers, they have already passed this stage, but they cannot move on in any way, because they bind each other. Or one of the partners has long outgrown this connection, he would have to go forward, but the other does not allow him to develop. What feeds the attachment in this case is habit, a sense of duty, duty, caring for children, attachment to jointly acquired property, pity for a partner (how could he be without me). Anything but love.
The need to possess another person, dependence, passion, jealousy, etc. A person thinks again and again about the object of his desire, dreams about it, passionately desiring to get it. A person becomes like a child who is not given a favorite toy. He demands her and sees nothing else around. Not to be confused with love. Love does not infringe on the right to freedom of another.
Unrequited love. This is such a durable thin-material structure that it can greatly spoil a person's health, squeezing all the juice out of it. Such a state exhausts both the one who loves and the one who is loved. This is a strong vampire attachment. Besides, new love cannot appear in a person if all his energy goes to the one for whom he feels unrequited love.
The strongest parental bindings. Often parents (especially mothers) strive to completely control their child, strangle his development with their attention and care. There is no need to talk about love here, it is dependence and a desire to subjugate another person. The consequences can be very unpleasant. The child will either find the strength to break the bond, which is fraught with a complete cessation of communication with the parents, or remain an inferior person. For example, if the mother is adolescence does not accept her son as an independent person and does not let him go, then her energy tightly blocks his main chakras, which leads to major setbacks in the man's personal life. A woman needs to pay attention to the relationship with her father. Although, in fairness, it must be said that attachments between a daughter and a father are much less common than between a mother and a son.
Hiding and repressing your true feelings for another person. You should always listen to your heart, casting aside stereotypes and hypocrisy. Sometimes people, feeling love for another, hide it, afraid of seeming stupid, funny, or being rejected, or simply because "it's not accepted" or "I'm not like that." Love must be splashed out, given away, told to another person how good he is, how you appreciate him.
Important! Bindings are sometimes very tenacious. And if negative emotions are strong, then the bindings persist for several incarnations in a row. People again and again attract each other in each new incarnation until they are freed from their attachments. Almost all karmic connections are based on bindings.
There is a practice of liberation from unnecessary bindings. In esotericism, it is customary to cut, anneal, destroy them. Removing an anchor does not imply removing an energy connection. Freed from attachments, we will not stop loving each other! We will gain freedom and give freedom to others, recognizing their right to control their own destiny.
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Dale Carnegie
Let's think, friends, what role does the ability to build relationships with other people play in our lives? I think you will agree that it is very important. After all, this is personal life, which requires an ideal relationship with the opposite sex, otherwise there will be no happiness in the family, and money, for the earnings of which we need to build business relationship with different people, and friends we can rely on, and connections with useful people who empower us, and much, much more. At the same time, relationships between people are not always smooth and efficient, despite the obvious usefulness of such relationships. And this is due to the fact that people are usually not taught to competently build relationships with each other. In most cases, we learn this skill ourselves, in the process of interacting with each other, guided mainly by everyday experience, and not by some special knowledge that needs to be drawn from special sources, for example, in books on psychology. As a result, many people have problems in relationships with each other, which can significantly complicate their lives. So that this does not happen, so that you, dear readers, competently build your relationships with any people, I suggest you read this article.
Let's start by asking you one of the most important questions for us - what do we want from other people? After all, we all want something from each other, and therefore we build various forms of relationships with each other, from the simplest to the very complex. Therefore, if you clearly and clearly understand what exactly you need from this or that person, you will be able to determine the form of relationship with him that will suit both you and him. But having decided on what you want from another person, from other people, now think about what you yourself can offer him or them? After all, if you want to build normal, useful relationships with people, you must think not only about what you want, but also about what other people want. Without this, you will not be able to interest them in yourself. Because you, and me, and all of us, are not interested in building relationships with those who do not care about us, who do not want to give us anything, but only want to take something from us. So right? And how often do you think about what you can be of interest to this or that person with whom you want to build a certain relationship? Or let's just say - how carefully do you work on this issue? Based on my experience of working with people on this issue, I must say that they do not pay enough attention to it, and therefore experience various problems in relations with each other. In other words, diplomacy is lame in many people - they do not think enough about the interests of others and therefore cannot competently link their interests with those of others. And then what kind of relations can we talk about if they do not meet the interests of one of the parties? About violent ones, about those in which one person or a group of people tolerates others? Such relationships, as history shows, are unreliable. So it's better to look mutual language with people, and not to impose their will by force.
So the first conclusion that we can draw, speaking about relations between people, will be this: good, reliable, strong relations can only be built on mutually beneficial terms. However, you and I are adults and therefore we understand [must understand] that mutually beneficial conditions can be different and not always we are talking about absolutely equal relations between people. Someone in them may be more even, due to their capabilities and their status. Therefore, it is already important to understand what a person has the right to count on, being who he is. And then after all, some people want such an attitude to themselves, which, let's say, they did not deserve. But due to the fact that their opinion of themselves is unreasonably high, they insist on such relationships with people in which few people will be interested in them. For example, an ordinary employee of the company may believe that his boss is unfairly receiving higher wages in comparison with him, although he himself is not able to do all the work that the boss does, since he lacks the competence for this. But the desire to be equal to someone who is superior to you in some way prevents people from objectively assessing themselves and their capabilities. Therefore, different people have different understandings of what conditions are mutually beneficial and what relationships are fair. Because of this difference of opinion, people may have certain problems in dealing with each other. Let's talk about them now.
relationship problems
Relationship problems, no matter what, are experienced by most people. I even dare to say that everyone faces these problems from time to time. And as we found out above, very common cause of these problems is the biased idea of people about what their relations with others should be. A lot of people want to be treated like they don't deserve. Here, of course, there is a place for selfishness, and short-sightedness, and the inability to adequately evaluate oneself and others, and even banal childish capriciousness can declare itself when people want the impossible. I often have to work with all this, helping people solve their problems in relationships with others.
But each of you can deal with all these points yourself, thinking about what his relationships with different people are based on. In general, everything is very simple - if you know the objective value of yourself, you will be able to understand what you should count on when building relationships with this or that person. And then you will not ask or demand what is not profitable and not interesting for you to give to another person, to other people. You will receive exactly the kind of treatment that you deserve at the moment. Something will have to be given to you, something people will give you in return. But it is not at all necessary that such an exchange will be absolutely equal. You, I repeat, will get what you deserve. And if you're smart enough, you'll accept it and won't ask for more. Then your relationships with people will objectively be mutually beneficial. Not equal, but mutually beneficial. And then everything will depend on you. The more benefit you can bring to other people, the higher their need for you will be, which means that they themselves will be ready to give you more in order to maintain a relationship with you.
Another cause of problems in relationships is straightforwardness, this is when people say what they think and act intuitively, on emotions, you can even say reflexively - without thinking properly. Well, you yourself know perfectly well what this leads to. This leads to conflicts, and sometimes quite stupid ones. And people often turn to psychologists not before, but after they make mistakes because of their straightforward attitude to a particular situation, problem, people. So let's think with you, what is the problem of a straightforward approach? Basically, it does not take into account the reaction of other people to certain words and actions of yours. If you, for example, tell a person that he is wrong about something, that he is mistaken, then your words will most likely cause a negative reaction in him. Do you agree? Nobody likes to feel stupid, wrong, nobody likes to be wrong. And even if you are objectively right, pointing out to a person his mistakes, then he may simply not accept your criticism. Just think, what a wise person you need to be in order to, if not positively, then at least neutrally react to criticism, remarks, reproaches addressed to you? Do you think most people are just like that - wisely perceiving negative information about themselves, drawing conclusions from it and using it for personal growth? Naturally, no. People are much simpler for the most part. They do not react with their head to criticism, but with their emotions. Then, one asks, why behave with them in a way that is unprofitable to do so? Why be direct? The answer is simple: many people do not know how to control themselves and are used to doing something first, and only then thinking. As a result, their straightforwardness often prevents them from building normal relationships with people. I want to tell a person everything as it is, but it is impossible, because a person will not understand. So you need to be flexible. And how many people know how to do it? In fact of the matter. It is always easier to swear, scandal, criticize, condemn, it does not require a great mind. But there is little or no benefit from these things, rather only harm.
Let's think about how to learn to build relationships with people using a flexible approach to them? I believe that for this you need to be able to manipulate people. That is, covertly manage them. It is manipulation that allows people to act flexibly, creatively, outside the box and effectively, rather than straightforwardly. With its help, you can play highly effective multi-way combinations that will allow you to find a common language with any person. However, most people have a predominantly negative attitude towards any manipulation. This is due to the fact that most of them do not know how to correctly manipulate others, since they were not taught this, but at the same time they themselves are afraid of becoming a victim of someone's manipulation. Hence the criticism of this psychological tool. But since it happens anyway - people manipulated and manipulate each other different ways, then it would still be better to learn this skill, and not condemn it. Then it will not be necessary to shove like a tank in order to achieve something from people, because a person will have a lot of other opportunities to build the relationships he needs with them. Let me show you one way to build relationships with people through manipulation.
Tuning
Adjustment is one of the ways to covertly influence people in order to gain confidence in them. And having entered into trust with a person, you will lay a solid foundation for your relationship with him. Usually, in order to please people, it is useful to adapt to them, since everyone is pleased to communicate with those who look, think, behave, just like them. But there are very strong personalities in our society who, with their energy alone, force others to imitate them and thus adjust the crowd to suit themselves. There are few such people, but they exist. These are leaders, both by nature and due to a special upbringing. But they, too, sometimes adapt to others if they have enough flexibility. Because this is a necessary quality for a person who wants to enjoy great popularity among the people around him. You can’t always stick to your own line, this is not effective behavior.
You can adapt to people intuitively, or you can quite consciously, only for this you need to undergo special training. Still, tuning is a very subtle art. If you just monkey around, then nothing will work, you need to read people well in order to understand how to become like them and please them. Therefore, before adapting to a person - copying him appearance, behavior, mood, and most importantly - agreeing with his opinion, beliefs, thoughts, you need to carefully observe him. After all, without knowing the true value system of a person, it is impossible to imitate him imperceptibly, and this is very important for naturalness. Therefore, watch, watch and watch a person again, study him, try to notice any little things in his behavior, memorize his every word in order to understand the course of his thoughts and learn about all his beliefs. Some people are inconsistent, they can abandon their decisions without any logical justification, but only under the influence of emotions. Therefore, it is important to notice this and behave in a similar way, skillfully jumping with a person from one thought to another. It can be unpleasant, sometimes it can even be annoying, but the main thing is the result. We are all not perfect, we all have our shortcomings, we need to be more tolerant of this. If you do not learn to accept people for who they are, or rather, if you do not learn to accept their shortcomings, you will not be able to build a relationship with them that is useful to you. Therefore, in order to skillfully adapt to others, you need to be more tolerant of them. So, when you thoroughly study the person you want to adapt to, rehearse your behavior at home in order to get used to a new role for yourself. And only then begin to demonstrate this behavior in the company of this person. In other words, get ready for the actual adjustment ahead of time.
Competent adjustment helps to find a common language with almost all people. And that's because everyone is different. And having found a common language with them, you will be able to build the relationship you need with them. After all, the more understanding between people, the easier it is for them to agree and get along with each other. In the future, of course, you will have to gradually become yourself if you plan to build a long-term and very close relationship with a person. But this is a completely different job. The main thing is to lay a solid foundation for relationships, and only then they can be slowly built in the right way. Now let's talk about another very important point on which the quality of human relations depends.
expectations
We all have expectations about life and other people. For some they are quite vague, while for others they are quite specific. And after all, what plans we sometimes make for people, what great dreams we associate with them, which, unfortunately, are not always fulfilled. And when our expectations are not met, we often blame other people for this, as if they are to blame for the fact that we invented a lot of things for ourselves. And think, friends, do we really need all these expectations, or is it better to let life surprise us with something from time to time? Indeed, sometimes people turn out to be dissatisfied with a completely normal life and a fairly happy relationship with interesting people because they just don't match up with their plans for life. But after all, this is an optional condition for happiness, for a normal life, for the opportunity to enjoy it. Why do we need to carry out our plans at all costs? Why not, instead, adjust them in such a way that they fit perfectly into the reality in which we live?
You know, very often I ask people a question, while solving some of their problems with relationships with different people: why do they think that there should be something in their life this way and not otherwise? Why is another scenario of their life unacceptable for them? Why does another form of relationship with this or that person or people not seem normal to them? And with the help of such questions, we often come to the conclusion that the expectations that a person - my client had and have, those his plans for life that he built for a long time, those dreams that he had and has, are far from so he needed, as he thought. It is quite possible to refuse them and nothing terrible will happen. This is a very simple path to happiness, but it is so difficult to pass. Just think how often we complain about different people because they did not help us fulfill our dreams, that they did not live up to our expectations, that they did not make us happy, as if the whole thing is really in them, and not in us. Note that I say “we” because there is no need to point fingers at anyone here - we all sin in one way or another. And this is a real problem for many people. They do not accept what they have, what life gives them, they want something else, which is not clear where it came from in their head.
And how often people ruin relationships with each other because of some of their outdated plans for life, in which there is not much sense. It often seems to them that everything is always better for others, that another life is more interesting, brighter, happier, that it is only they who are so unhappy, because they do not have something or they lack something. All these harmful thoughts destroy a person from the inside and often harm his relationships with very valuable and even loving people. So the expectation of something, from relationships, from other people, from life, is often associated with a person's dissatisfaction with his life. No need to run away with your thoughts far into the future and draw it in your own way. This occupation can destroy your present. You can plan something in your life, there is nothing wrong with that, it is even useful. But do not count on the fact that these plans will necessarily come true. Life is a tricky thing, it always builds such combinations for each person that he is forced to rack his brains to understand why his affairs are developing this way and not otherwise. And if he does not do this, then he is simply disappointed in his life, believing that it did not work out for him.
Friends, relationships between people are work. And it needs to be done. Such things cannot be left to chance. If you want normal relationships with people at all levels, you need to learn how to build them and then practice the knowledge gained. How important this is to you, you can understand by paying attention to the quality of the relationships you already have with different people. If they do not suit you, you need to deal with this issue, because it will not be solved by itself. Well, if they are satisfied, I can only be happy for you and wish you to continue to build successful and useful relationships with people.
In the Universe, in order to maintain the spiritual and material energy balance, energy exchange is constantly and continuously taking place. This circulation of energy takes place within the framework of the law of conservation of energy.
Communication is essentially an energy exchange. The energy produced by man is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. Hence the need to communicate.
People communicate for personal gain. During the interaction between people, an energy exchange occurs - one gives, the other receives and vice versa. If people like each other, then an intense energy exchange takes place between them. At the same time, both experience the pleasure of communication.
Even if two people experiencing mutual attraction do not talk, pretending to be indifferent, their energy fields are still drawn to each other. As the saying goes, "I'm drawn to him."
During the communication of two people, channels are formed between their auras, through which energy flows flow in both directions. The streams can be of any color and take on any shape (they can be seen with extrasensory perception abilities).
Energy channels connect the auras of partners through the corresponding chakras, depending on the type of communication:
Muladhara(base chakra) - relatives.
Swadhisthana(sex chakra) - lovers, married couple, friends in a fun pastime, relatives.
Manipura(navel chakra) - relatives, employees, subordinates, bosses, friends in sports and those with whom you enter into competition.
Anahata(heart chakra) - objects of emotional interaction, these are the people we love. For the harmonious development of relations between a man and a woman, it is necessary to have a channel through the sexual chakra (svadhisthana).
Vishuddha(throat chakra) - like-minded people, colleagues, etc.
Ajna(frontal chakra) - imitation and adoration of an idol, sect leader, etc. Hypnotic channels, suggestion of thoughts. Telepathic communication with another person.
Sahasrara(crown chakra) - connection only with egregors (collectives, religious communities, sects, football fan clubs, political ideology, etc.)
The more enthusiastic partners are with each other, the stronger and more active channels are formed.
In the course of developing close trusting relationships, all chakras are gradually connected by channels. It is in this way that strong relationships arise that are not subject to either distance or time. For example, a mother always feels her child, no matter where he is, and no matter how many years have passed since their last meeting. It also happens that when meeting an old acquaintance after many years, a person feels as if they parted only yesterday.
Channels can persist for a very long time - years, decades, and pass from incarnation to incarnation. That is, channels connect not only bodies, but also souls.
Healthy relationships form bright, clear, pulsating channels. In such relationships there is trust, intimacy, sincerity and there is enough room for personal freedom. There is an equal exchange of energy, without distortions.
If the relationship is unhealthy, that is, one partner depends on the other, then the channels are heavy, stagnant, dull. Such relationships deprive of freedom, often come down to mutual irritation and anger.
If one of the partners wants to completely control the other, the channels can wrap around the aura from all sides.
When relationships gradually die, the channels become thinner and weaker. Over time, the energy stops running through these channels, communication stops, people become strangers.
If people part, but the channels are still preserved, then they continue to reach out to each other. It also happens when one partner cuts off communication channels and closes from further interaction, while the other partner is still attached to him and is trying in every possible way to break through energy protection in order to restore relations.
In the process of forcible rupture of channels, parting is very painful. It takes many months or years to recover from this. Much here depends on how ready a person is to accept the free will of another and free himself from dependence developed over a long time.
Most of the channels built in everyday communication eventually disappear without a trace. In the case of close relationships, the channels remain for a very long time, even after parting, some channels remain. Particularly strong channels arise during sexual and family ties.
In this fragment, you will see a demonstrative experiment that proves the existence of energy channels between people who have been in a relationship for a long time:
Each time during sexual contact with a new partner, new channels are formed along the sexual chakra, connecting people for many years, and even the whole subsequent life. At the same time, it does not matter at all whether the sexual partners managed to find out each other's names - the channel in the case of sexual contact is formed and lasts a very long time. And if there is a channel, then there is also the circulation of energy through it. And what quality the energy comes in is already difficult to say, it depends on the characteristics of the field of another person. To sleep or not to sleep, and if to sleep, then with whom, of course, you decide. It's good when it happens consciously.
It is believed that the strongest channels are parental. But even here there are options.
In people who live nearby for a long time, energy fields (auras) adjust to each other and work in unison. Intimate relationships require field synchronization. Often we notice that people who live together for a long time become similar to each other even outwardly.
If the characteristics of the auras of two individuals differ greatly, then it will be difficult for them to communicate. When energy flows alien to it invade the field, a reaction of repulsion, fear, disgust appears. "He makes me sick."
When a person does not want to communicate with someone, he closes his energy field, and all energy flows emanating from another person are reflected. In this case, the other person gets the impression that he is not heard, as if he is talking to the wall.
During illness, the patient's energy field is weakened, and he unconsciously replenishes the missing energy at the expense of the one who is nearby. This happens automatically. Healthy people feed the sick. This is the part family life: First I will help you, then you will help me. If the illness is prolonged and severe, all members of the family may feel its devastating influence. They will eventually feel tired and unwilling to care for the sick. At such moments, it is very important to be able to replenish your own energy reserves. You can not give all the time only to care for the patient, you need to be distracted. Hobbies, sports, creativity, communication with friends, entertainment can come to the rescue.
Negative emotions (anger, envy, jealousy, etc.) directed towards another person pierce his aura with a dark energy flow. In this case, there is a leakage of energy in favor of the aggressor. A person whose aura is polluted with imperfect thinking, dislike or despondency is not able to receive energy from external space, and he fills his energy hunger at the expense of other people. This is the so-called energy vampirism.
The vampire may be active. In this case, he takes energy from another person by actively ejecting negativity in his direction. These are, as a rule, brawlers, conflict people, constantly grumbling and embittered. If in response to the vicious attack of such a person you responded emotionally - upset, angry - then your energy flowed to him. It turns out that the main defense is calm and ignoring.
Extremely negative interactions can cause such a strong destruction of the field that a person will have to recover for a long time. Some aura healing processes happen automatically. In this case, they say: "time heals." But some wounds leave permanent scars that can carry over into future lives. People in this case tend to avoid pain and protect their wounds with energetic and psychological blocks.
It remains to be said that channels can connect not only two people, channels can connect a person with an animal, plant or any inanimate object. For example, many are familiar with the feeling of longing for the place or home where important events. A person can become attached to his car, a child to his toy.
In the event of a dependence on an object to which strong but unhealthy energy channels are stretched, such channels are usually called. Bindings block the free will of a person and disrupt the energy balance. Bindings will be discussed in the next article.
As in ordinary life There are ups and downs in relationships. Some situations seem so critical that a not-too-pleasant thought is firmly rooted in the subconscious: what if all this is a big mistake? Doubts arise from various sources. Sometimes they are really justified and require decisive action, as they can affect the quality of life. But in most cases, conflicts can be avoided if you think a little about what the chosen one means to you. There are 18 signs by which you can understand that two halves of one whole have met.
1. You are not afraid to show weakness.
When we allow ourselves to openly express feelings and emotions, this means that a person is trustworthy. He won't judge, laugh, or turn into a cruel critic, because he understands that everyone can have moments of weakness. It is in this vulnerability that love grows stronger.
2. You support each other's desire for development
Each of us strives to become the best version of ourselves for a significant person. We do not stop striving to achieve our goals, we study, master new skills, change professions, take care to preserve youth and beauty. The main thing is to feel that it is really appreciated, that our efforts are not in vain. When there is mutual support in a relationship, they can overcome a lot.
They say that it is opposites that attract, but like-minded people create truly strong families. If you have common views on important issues, moral principles, an understanding of your responsibility regarding the satellite, the union can already be considered successful.
4. You prefer the company of a loved one, not friends
Of course, each of us needs a change of scenery and communication with other people from time to time. If you really feel good together, then the company is just one of the ways to diversify your leisure time, and not a prerequisite.
5. You share all the problems
It is difficult to build something worthwhile when each person in a couple deals only with their own issues - financial, career, household. Even if there is a possibility that the whole world may turn away from one of you, it is the support from your loved one that allows you to overcome difficulties faster and more efficiently.
6. You complete each other's sentences
Sometimes it seems that this is just a fun game. When one person knows exactly what the other will say, this is not an indicator of his predictability, but the personification that your thoughts are moving in the same direction.
7. You want to go home
The joy of meeting is difficult to compare with something more pleasant if it is sincere. Of course, it is difficult to keep romance in such a busy rhythm of life, when the day is literally scheduled by the minute, and thoughts are occupied with work and everyday issues. But the smile of a loved one who meets on the threshold of the house is the most valuable end to a hard day.
8. It's easy and comfortable for you to be together.
When we do not see the need for pretense, we do not hide true feelings and thoughts, we can be ourselves and at the same time we are not afraid to appear in a color that is not too favorable, this indicates the achievement certain level harmony. It manifests itself in helping in small things, silence, or the ability to laugh together at outright nonsense just to cheer each other up.
9. You communicate throughout the day
There are couples who leave for work in the morning and the next time they exchange a few words only in the evening after returning home. A meaningless call or text message in which you can simply ask how your loved one is doing - distinguishing feature happy families. At the same time, a long absence of an answer begins to cause natural anxiety, and both of you, in turn, do not neglect the need to call in a more free minute so as not to cause your partner unnecessary anxiety.
10. You don't have secrets.
Of course, we are not talking about pleasant surprises with which we want to show our love or care. The absence of secrets speaks of boundless trust, when two people can discuss absolutely everything without hesitation and appreciate the point of view of their soul mate. In such relationships, partners do not hide the darkest thoughts and previously committed mistakes, since it is much more important for them to live honestly.
11. You often take pictures
The desire to capture as many memorable moments as possible is another hallmark of happy couples in which two people are meant for each other. Of course, we take many pictures with children, relatives, friends or colleagues, but these ones, in which only lovers are present, are special, although they are rarely remarkable or valuable from the point of view of others.
12. You call each other by nicknames more often than by their first names.
Of course, in the company of other people, we behave more restrained, as required by the bounds of decency. However, in an informal setting, addressing by name often gives way to cute nicknames that both like. This is an indicator of greater affection than that observed among somewhat stiff couples.
13. You often touch each other
Tactile contact is another manifestation of trust and care, as well as proof that we are comfortable in the company of our partner. People who truly love each other practice encouraging touches and hugs, and they enjoy holding hands.
14. You act like a team
The ability to discuss any issue and joint efforts in solving each problem, regardless of its scale, is another indicator of stability in relations. loving people they know how to find the strength in themselves to abstract from emotions and accept each other's point of view, to seek a compromise.
15. Feeling of deja vu
If it seems to you that something similar has already happened, although both of you are almost completely sure that this has not happened, this is another favorable sign. The feeling that your acquaintance lasts much longer than it actually does, greatly increases the chances that the union will be eternal.
16. You have a story
Of course, every couple has something similar - people could meet in the office, transport, cafes, at a holiday with mutual friends. If more than one year has passed since that moment, and both of you still remember him with warmth and can retell everything in great detail, this proves the power of feelings.
17. You are confident in your future.
Not every person is capable or inclined to make far-reaching plans, especially if they are connected with someone else. When you are discussing long-term relationships, doing family planning, considering buying a bigger house, a new car, a plot outside the city, and know or imagine what will happen to you in 5 years, this is a great sign.
18. You never miss an opportunity to show your love.
Can talk a lot beautiful words, but they will remain a set of letters and sounds, as they will not awaken in the soul that wave of tenderness that they should. Sincere love is manifested in small things - short calls, gentle touches, approval, a morning cup of coffee, an ironed shirt, watching your favorite movie for the thousandth time. When she really connects two people, they not only show her with their attitude, but also talk about her.
We are all different - not everyone is ready to discuss their feelings and work to develop them. But it is important for any person to feel that next to him is the very one with whom he is not afraid to link his fate. Even if at times everything seems like a big mistake, it's worth considering what kind of attraction exists between you. Finding your soul mate is easy, the main thing is to want it.
It binds two souls that should be together, regardless of time, place or circumstance.
Nothing and no one can break this invisible thread between two people who are made for each other.
Sooner or later they will unite and be together.
Red thread between people
1. Red color
Japanese legend of the red thread
A longer version of this story is based on a Japanese folk legend, which in turn originated from a Chinese proverb legend.
The legend says: every man and every woman is born with a red thread tied to the little finger of the left hand. This thread binds people together (the original Chinese version says that the ankles of lovers are tied with threads).
She forever connects the two soul mates, two lovers. Both people, connected by the red thread of fate, are sooner or later doomed to be together.
And this is neither distance, nor age, nor social status, nor any other factors will interfere.
One way or another, sooner or later, two souls will unite forever.
This thread is not visible, and sometimes fate weaves strange twists and turns that can create difficulties and obstacles for two people destined for each other.
But every tangle that will be unraveled, every knot that will be untangled, will become another step towards overcoming obstacles to let the reunion of kindred souls.
The legend of the red thread
During the Tang Dynasty (r. 618 to 907 AD), there was a young man named Wei whose parents died when he was very young.
The boy grew up and wanted to get married, but, unfortunately, no matter how hard he tried, he could not find a suitable wife for himself.
And then one day, in search of a bride, he came to a strange city. One of the local residents, having heard the story of the guy, told him that the daughter of the governor of the city would be an excellent match for him.
The man invited the guy to meet with the girl's father and discuss all the details with him. Then they decided to meet again at dawn at the local temple in order to go to the governor.
Excited, Wei arrived at the temple before dawn, when the full moon was shining brightly in the sky. On the steps of the temple, with his back against the railing, sat an old man, reading a book in the moonlight.
Wei looked over the old man's shoulder curiously, but did not understand a single word written in the book. The language was unknown to the guy.
Intrigued, he asked the old man what kind of book it was and what language it was written in. The old man replied with a smile that this book was from the other world.
Before answering, the old man looked around, then said: I am entrusted with the care of human destinies, as regards matters of marriage and love.
Then Wei opened his heart: "I am alone in this world and have been looking for a girl for a long time to start a family.
For ten years I have not been able to find a bride. Now I hope to marry the governor's daughter.
Looking at the book, the old man replied: “No. This is not your man. Now your future wife is only three years old. When she turns seventeen, you will marry her.
Wei did not like the elder's words and asked him if it was possible to somehow change the fate.
And the old man said:
"A red thread binds the ankles of husband and wife. No one can see it, but once tied with it, you will never be separated again.
You are bound by it at birth. And nothing can separate you: neither distance, nor religion, nor social status. Sooner or later you will become husband and wife.
And nothing can be done about it. This invisible red thread cannot be cut or broken. She bound you together forever."
