Every person needs love and everyone is waiting for it. When starting a new relationship, we hope that it will be forever. Especially, at first it seems that this is not falling in love and not flirting at all, but a real feeling. And we plunge headlong into relationships, sometimes turning off our minds. And behind our feelings we do not notice the true emotions of the object of adoration. But you want to believe and feel that not only you love, but your partner too. The mind helps us with this. But at the very beginning of the relationship he is clearly bad
works. Very often we take wishful thinking. And in the signs of attention of the man we like, we see a hint of a continuation. Normal flirting for a man to a woman may seem like the beginning of feelings on his part.
All relationships begin with flirting, communication, mutual sympathy and dating. But love does not appear at the first meeting. Falling in love, passion, the desire to avoid loneliness - all this can be confused with true love. And it’s not at all a fact that it can appear in
relationships. But what if you fell in love, but here he is... Yes or no? How to understand? How do you know if he has plans in mind for a future together or if he thinks you’re not the one? Let's try to understand all the intricacies of love from a male point of view.
What is love
Nobody can give a definite answer. For each person it has its own characteristics and everyone feels it differently. But still there are a couple of points that are the same for everyone.
- In love, acceptance of a partner is unconditional. You love him as he is, without wanting to change anything about him. It doesn’t matter what color his hair is, what color his eyes are, or whether he has a slim figure. His inner world is important to you, no matter how pretentious it may sound.
- Respect for your partner. You take into account his interests, his opinions, desires and his personal freedom, without limiting anything.
Men are from Mars. Women from Venus
Women and men think and love differently. Men are not used to talking a lot about their feelings and emotions. They show their feelings through actions. Whereas women love more with their ears and they need verbal manifestations of feelings. Here it is important to understand and know the peculiarities of male psychology. And, of course, it all depends on the man’s psychotype. Choleric loves emotionally, passionately, jealously. The phlegmatic is quiet, silent and not as emotional as a woman would like.
Men are even more of a mystery than women when it comes to relationships and feelings. But at the same time, men are more straightforward. Often they can weigh and ponder for a long time whether it is worth starting a serious relationship. Or, conversely, on the third day of dating, take him to the registry office. Neither one nor the other are the main signs of a man’s love.
How can you tell whether he loves you or not?
They say that a real wise woman knows and feels whether a man loves her. But often, behind emotions, we are unable to separate the wheat from the chaff. And it wouldn’t hurt to know at least some signs of male love. So:
- Just looks and you are on the same wavelength. There are fundamental principles to a successful and long-lasting relationship. The lifestyle that you both lead is the same and your views on life coincide. Both of you, for example, cannot imagine a family without children.
- Your way of thinking is also the same. You may have different interests and preferences in music, movies and books. But in things that are vital to you, you must agree.
- He helps and takes an active part in your life and in your affairs. You don't always have to do everything together. But to help solve some issues loving man will be ready at any time. And if you need to pick you up from your mother late in the evening and have to go to work tomorrow, he will still come and pick you up. If you need even just physical help around the house, then he is ready to help you without talking.
- He trusts you and you both feel secure in the relationship. In love there is no place for mistrust, jealousy and suspicion. A confident and loving man will not forbid you to meet with your friends, and will not be jealous of every phone call. He trusts you. And he himself remains faithful.
- He is ready to sacrifice his affairs for you. Carefully! Don't use this too often. Everyone should have personal space and you shouldn’t bother your loved one over every little thing. Think about each other.
- This point is a consequence of the previous one - mutual care. A loving man, of course, is always ready to take care of you. Even sacrificing their interests and affairs.
- He respects you and your interests. Doesn't question your hobbies and activities. It gives you the opportunity for self-realization and supports you. An interesting opinion from a psychologist on this matter, watch the video:
- Another sign of true love is that when you are nearby, you feel comfortable, nothing annoys you and you don’t need to pretend to be something.
- If your relationship has not yet really begun, but the man is persistent and does not accept any refusals. He seeks dates with you by any means. This behavior speaks of really strong feelings on his part.
- And, of course, he sees you in his plans for the future and has even already introduced you to his family.
Of course, there are other signs that a man has fallen in love or is interested in you.
We stopped at the main ones. You can also tell by a man’s behavior that he is interested in you. More details in the video:
Love is a single state that unites representatives of both sexes, but each of them reveals it in their own way. Not realizing how love is expressed in the inner world of another, young couples
face disagreements, and only the desire to understand the chosen one, as well as
willingness to give in to one's principles
leads to success in
relationships.
Sometimes men
They don’t understand how women’s love is expressed, and what is the reason that their beloved girls and wives are not always happy with them. The solution lies in the psychology of the opposite sexes, because it is not for nothing that it is symbolically said that the nature of men is similar to Mars, and women
- with Venus.
For a woman, love is inseparable from care. She is full of tender
words and affection, strives to inspire her lover and deeply believes in him. He,
in turn, extremely needs her trust, because it is faith and respect
gives a man the opportunity to feel like a protector and adequately protect
beloved.
Women's love is less global. A man thinks big: he
must provide the family with housing, material goods, and become a father. While studying
such a responsible job, the breadwinner rarely pays attention to details,
who do not pass by his beloved.
A sign of female love is attentiveness. This item is more
opens the previous one wide. A man may not be full of endearments, but
take care of well-being. A woman is capable of giving love in everyday life.
little things, which is why the wife is the keeper of the family hearth, and the husband is his
defender.
Reciprocity in love. With the exception of isolated cases when
a woman falls in love without reciprocity, usually beautiful ladies open their hearts
only at the sight of the boyfriend’s burning feelings. If the chosen one is indifferent,
a woman endures excruciating suffering,
but soon realizes his worth and leaves forever. A man is arranged in love
differently, initially he needs to love himself, and only guided
feelings, to conquer your beloved.
The woman remains reasonable. With all the outburst of feelings, women are distinguished by sobriety of mind, and this quality increases when children appear. A woman will not take risks, endangering the lives of her unconceived or already born children, even if she loves deeply. A man is ready to drown in the ocean of love without a trace, but if feelings cool down, only responsibility and a sense of duty keep him from breaking up.
Need in
sensual conversations. Finding themselves alone with their loved one, women develop an inner
the need to talk about relationships, resolve pressing issues, find ways
improve communication, etc. Love men express themselves completely differently, although he will not contradict such thoughts,
but still prefers to share his thoughts, which only occasionally
relate to the topic of love. How to determine whether a woman is in love?
State of happiness. IN
When communicating with a loved one, she shines, greedily absorbs his every word,
looks with wide eyes and a sincere smile. State of happiness
extends to communication with others. Woman in love, inspired
her chosen one, is always cheerful and confident, there are no barriers for her, because her
love.
Complete dedication. IN
damage to herself, and sometimes to her work, a loving chosen one is always in a hurry to
meeting, giving the man even precious hours of night rest. Woman who
does not like, finds more interesting ways to spend leisure time than meeting with
unloved.
One in the whole world!
When a woman is full of feelings and feels reciprocity, other men are for her
exist. Compared to the beloved, the others pale in shortcomings, and his opinion
almost always the only and correct one.
Desirability. Sex for
the fair sex is always a joy, but with the condition that the beloved man is nearby. 90
% of women exclude sexual relations with partners they do not like.
Confidence. Loving
a woman opens up completely, sometimes causing herself harm.
Representatives of the fair sex tend to dissolve in their loved ones, although
psychologists note that it is very important not to forget about your personality.
Man, thanks
love and the knowledge that they believe in him, makes great achievements, and a woman, like
keeper of the family hearth, considers success in
relationship with your loved one.
Women and men
different, she expects endless tenderness and daily confessions, and he thinks that
everything is clear, since he chose her. She demands proof of love, and he
proves his love by wanting another child from his beloved. Only
patience, the ability to compromise and put other people's needs above your own
help people understand each other, feeling happiness.
Wanting to understand how love is expressed, you need to take a closer look at your soulmate. It's worth remembering that
the expression of feelings lies not only in words, but also in
actions, self-sacrifice, care. Only appreciating friend
friend, showing
patience and hiding
pride, one can truly become one.
Over the years between and woman difficult relationships were built. This is because different genders think differently, so everyone faces the problem of misunderstanding at different stages of their lives. In order to understand your partner, you need to learn to determine his principles and desires. Women want to understand what a particular man thinks and determine his attitude towards himself. It is not always simple and easy.
Men rarely talk about what is happening inside him. Sometimes this is due to upbringing, temperament, or simply the inability to express one’s feelings. Therefore, many people wonder how exactly a man shows his love. Let's look at this issue in more detail, so that every representative of the fair sex can say with confidence that this man I'm not indifferent to her.
By what signs can you determine that a man is in love?
1. The man insists on meeting, shows signs of attention. It often happens that a man disappears at a certain point in the relationship, the woman tries to convince herself that everything is fine, he simply does not have time. In fact, the problem is that the man is simply not in love. If, after several dates, he insists on continuing the relationship, calls regularly and invites you to spend time together, then he has quite serious intentions.
Not worth spending time to a person who disappears after the first date, stops calling and does not respond to your messages. A man in love will want to be with you, communicate with you, and spend a lot of his personal time on you. If you notice that a man is bored, calls regularly and makes an appointment, it means he is in love.
2. A man gives gifts when he falls in love. Men by nature do not know how to express feelings in words, so they try to find some universal methods. If you received a gift from him, it means he wants to conquer you. Lovelaces differ from ordinary men in that he is not ready to spend his own money on women. A womanizer will be generous with compliments, will take you on dates under the moonlight, but he will not spend his money on gifts for his next beloved. If a man constantly presents you with signs of attention in the form of gifts, it means that you mean too much to him.
Absolutely doesn't matter, what size and cost the gift will be, the most important thing is that he spent his own money on it to please you. Women mistakenly believe that men who are generous with gifts do the same with absolutely every one of their lovers. But in reality this is not so, because almost all representatives of the stronger sex are pragmatic by nature. This means that he is not ready to invest his money in another “project”. Therefore, if you notice generosity towards you in a man, you can be sure that you mean a lot to him.
3. When a man falls in love, he demonstrates spiritual rapprochement. He will find a free minute to call and find out how you are doing, he will want to spend the evening together watching an interesting film, even if there is absolutely no chance of intimacy. For a man, not only the appearance of his beloved is important, but her soul, so they are ready to spend a lot of time to get to know her better. Representatives of the stronger sex, who only have plans for an intimate relationship, will not waste time communicating with a woman for whom they feel nothing.
Soulful rapprochement really important, but only for the one who loves. Women pay little attention to what a man asks them, what he tells them about himself and how he tries to find common ground. In fact, sometimes it is very important to listen to what the man you like says. If he praises himself from different sides, rest assured that he is not in the mood for anything serious. But if he asks about you and your hobbies, talks about his own, shares his opinion, you can safely suspect him of being in love.
4. When a man falls in love, he lets you into his life. One more point that is worth paying special attention to. A man who is serious about a relationship with an interesting woman will try to connect her with his life. He will introduce you to his parents, bring him to a group of friends, talk about his work and his plans for the future.
From now on he will paint your life, connecting it with a specific representative of the fair sex, and try to imagine your life with her in the future. If a man meets with you directly on neutral territory for a long time, you still don’t know a single friend of his, don’t count on anything serious. Only a loving man is ready to introduce a woman into his life, because he will not introduce his parents to who knows who his girlfriend is. Watch how he speaks about his friends, whether he really has a good relationship with his parents, and whether he is ready to share this information with you.
5. A man cares when he loves. Even in the simplest and pleasant relationship There are certain times when your partner needs help. Perhaps these are problems at work, a conflict with family, or some personal experiences. If the man next to you is ready to share your problems, rest assured that his feelings are quite serious. In order to demonstrate his love for a woman, a man sometimes lacks words, but his care will always give him away. If he notices that a woman is feeling bad, she cannot understand herself or find mutual language with loved ones, he will come to the rescue. Perhaps he does not know how to support with any specific actions, but he will be there and lend a helping hand.
6. A man in love is ready to make concessions. Any good relationship requires mutual support, help and the ability to give in to your partner. A selfish, narcissistic representative of the stronger sex, who only wants to spend a stormy night with you, will not overstep himself in any way and betray his principles.
Of course, you won’t be able to determine this right away, but after a certain time you will notice how much he listens to you, whether he is ready to give up something and how he acts in conflict situations. Everyone has their own principles and view of this world, but only a loving person is ready to step over himself and try to understand his partner.
Vivid love is accompanied by a manic craving for the object of passion. Euphoria, melancholy, jealousy and happiness itself are associated with a loved one. All these are signs of addiction, which is akin to drug addiction or gambling addiction. Sooner or later it goes away on its own without requiring treatment. If at first love had all the fullness of feelings, then later a stable phase of the relationship begins. But sometimes disappointment in one’s own choice comes.
Far and near "beacons"
2. Look at him when he is sleeping and cannot control himself. This simple and effective technique will also help you check your attitude towards your partner. At the same time, carefully observe yourself. You won't know in advance what you will feel. A handsome man can suddenly appear as a freak, a rude man as a gentle angel, a smart man as a simpleton, a macho man as a defenseless child. But this is not what is important, but what response this unexpected transformation will evoke in your soul. You can easily distinguish a positive reaction from a negative one. And this is the most noticeable marker of the strength of your love. Admiration, tenderness, tenderness or cold surprise, disgust and rejection.
3. It is very important for a woman to feel beautiful and desired. At some stage, you may notice that he no longer admires you and in his presence you no longer feel charming and attractive. This is a sign: the relationship has changed. This often happens not because “all men are womanizers,” but because a woman, confident in her charms or bogged down in family worries, stops paying attention to her husband. Develop, surprise, monitor your appearance. It is more productive to look for the reason within yourself. Remember what you did to attract his attention before. There is no need to annoy your lover by demanding it forcefully, but attention can be returned.
4. In almost all women, maternal instinct requires the birth of a child. It is surprising to hear from those who have a permanent partner: “I would be glad to give birth, but not from him.” Why then be together if the relationship deprives you of the opportunity to have what will make you happier? There are probably some other aspects of love that are holding you back.
5. Another test of the strength of your connection with a man is the prospect of old age. It makes sense to imagine what your relationship will be like in old age. Everything that you don’t like now, but that you can turn a blind eye to for now, will intensify: boringness, anger, the desire to teach. While you are young, quarrels during the day and cracks are “plastered over” at night. With age, they grow, no longer provoking passion, but insomnia. So, do you want to grow old next to this person?
6. While there are no children in the family, to some extent a man is a child for a woman. Taking care of him is similar to motherhood. The duties that his mother used to perform for him in everyday life may be a burden to you. However, care, as a manifestation of love, brings only joy. In the same way, maternal pride in her chosen one can arise when he demonstrates accomplishments. If your “inner mother” rejoices at the manifestation of the talent of “her boy,” then she also realizes how important it is to invest her mental and physical strength in his development. Do you want to become the soil, the ground on which your husband’s virtues will blossom? Then everything is fine.
7. A woman appreciates unmanifested qualities in a man. This is another criterion indicating the prospect of finding a harmonious family. Let's say you don't take risks using your business skills. If you are complemented by a successful business man, the couple will exist as one. Such a life partner is more attractive to you than, say, a creative one. It would be a mistake to think that only common interests bring partners together. Those qualities of a man’s personality that evoke a response in a woman, “resonate” with her essence - this is what she lacks in life. You shouldn’t take everything literally: I’m poor - a rich person will complement me. We are talking here more about human nature, about his internal reserves.
“How often this does not coincide!”
The proposed seven sides of your feelings for your partner, which make sense to consider, allow you to determine where there are “inconsistencies.” Every woman has the right to decide whether to get used to the discrepancy or try to eliminate it. Should we look into the future? Maybe happiness lies in the ability to enjoy what you have?
