This is not to mention the younger generation, among whom you can hear nicknames not only for the class of animals, but also for things, toys, and natural phenomena. Why do we give our loved ones cute nicknames? Is it really impossible to show all the love by calling by name?
Psychologists say that all these nicknames of ours are a very good indicator of sexual relationships and the balance of power between partners. After all, we can distinguish each other thanks to the names our parents gave us. But affectionate words are a kind of password for access to personal territory. Regarding those around you, you decide for yourself what to call you; you allow some to call you Irochka, and others only Irina Stanislavovna.
Regarding the publicity of cute names and nicknames for loved ones, only couples who have problems within their relationships use them in public. By calling each other “bunnies” in public, they are trying to show that everything is fine with them and there are no problems, and that new status they are completely satisfied. But in fact, it is just a shell, and not a very strong one.
The partisans hide their nicknames from the outside world, because they believe that the world is just an addition to their happiness.
The meaning of nicknames
Only at first glance it may seem that all nicknames are the same and have the same meaning, an affectionate one. But! It turns out that the “babe” and the “sparrow” are significantly different. In order to understand the purpose for which you were given a nickname, let’s look at their classification.
"Come from childhood"
Sometimes we unwittingly become witnesses to absurd situations when a wife calls her thug-husband “baby.” This, of course, can be justified by the fact that we all love children, cute and harmless creatures. That's why we compare men with children. What does this innocent desire mean? ?
And it speaks of the desire to dominate a man. Most women do this unconsciously, and some, thus, try to “drive a man under his heel.” Also, wives often do this because they feel responsible for a large child. After all, he needs to be fed, washed, and put to bed. Therefore, in the case of children's nicknames, women give them, feeling maternal responsibility for the “baby.”
"Animal world"
Probably nicknames from the animal world are the most common phenomenon. These names are most often used by “love doves”, by the way, a term from the same opera. Unlike children's world, there is a lot in the animal different types animals. Therefore, you can call your loved one both a prickly hedgehog and a wild tiger, depending on the temperament of your partner.
Some couples go too far and call each other hippos, platypuses, and crocodiles, which in itself looks cute only at first glance. Don’t forget about your sex life, because such nicknames are unlikely to excite your partner, but will rather repel you. There is also a problem with stereotypes and repetition in this area. Many girls and guys don’t think at all about the fact that by calling a partner a “bunny,” we equate him with other “bunnies.” But you don’t want to be like someone else, and anyway, why come up with these cute nicknames if they have already become similar, like names.
Toys
Representatives of this department are most often called “dolls” or “babies.” The idea behind the name is external beauty, because dolls are almost thoroughly beautiful creations. Therefore, if they call you that, it should be flattering. The problem is this. Dolls are not only beautiful figures, but also dead ones. Most often they are perceived as a beautiful thing that is pleasant to show to the outside world, and is also pleasant for the body. Typically, such girls are chosen by rich men and buy their “dolls” beautiful houses and dresses.
"Private property"
It is common for many men and women to choose what is best and appropriate it for a legal basis such as marriage. In order to determine how possessive your man is, watch his vocabulary regarding you. If instead of calling you “good”, he says “my good” or if instead of “darling” he says “my dear” - this means that your man is not used to sharing and since you are with him, you belong only to him.
Tanyusha or Tanechka?
Many couples do not understand why they should give their loved ones cute nicknames. They prefer to use the name, at most in an affectionate form. Psychologists say that there is a whole classification of suffixes that carry meaning and show the attitude of the addressee.
For example, the suffixes “-echka” and “-ochka” - Tanechka, Allochka, Vanechka, show a respectful, polite and friendly attitude towards the interlocutor. In addition, similar forms of names are also used in official settings, where they express the very fact of a friendly attitude.
In general, psychologists say that the presence of affectionate nicknames in relationships is necessary. They set up relationships in a friendly and correct way. Psychologists also highlight the tendency that the more, more often and more creatively partners call each other, the more promising the development of their life together and the happier the marriage. In the opposite case, when the number of teasing decreases, this indicates that the relationship is cooling down, and the partners are becoming bored with each other.
For example, in Malaysia, the state, concerned about the number of divorces of citizens, appealed to them to love each other, cherish, and be sure to caress and call each other tenderly, while inventing new nicknames.
That’s why today we call each other “cats” and “bunnies” not because we look like them, but because we love them. And we compare them with the animals we love most. Although the moment of comparison is also inherent, because if a man is very active in bed, then I call him a “wild tiger,” and if he is passive, then he is just a “tiger cub.” But men are not offended even by a tiger cub, because not everyone has a hot Spanish temperament; some are happy with calm, balanced sex.
We can guess as much as we want about a man’s true attitude towards us. It doesn't matter how long you've been together. We girls have different situations and circumstances that make us doubt his love. These doubts eat us away from the inside, destroying ourselves and our relationships, giving rise to feelings such as jealousy, self-doubt, and fear of loss.
We can ask a man the question as much as we like: “Do you love me?” - but you probably don’t even like asking him about it. And whatever the answer, it is not always able to dispel your doubts.
In general, asking about love when there are doubts in your soul is somehow awkward, you feel like some kind of beggar. Can you imagine for a moment how the beautiful Jolie runs around the house after her husband Brad Pitt and asks: “Honey, do you love me?” Kind of stupid, don't you agree?
And if Jolie doesn't do it, then you shouldn't either. Firstly, if your man really loves you, this does not mean that he should tell you about it every half hour. He will not do this, if only because his, a man’s, love is fundamentally different from a woman’s. Women's love stands the test of time, logic and circumstances. If we have chosen our man, we will follow him through thick and thin. Even if your friends tell you that he is worthless and no matter how many times he himself put an end to your relationship, you will devote all of yourself to him. And you expect the same attitude from him. But this is unrealistic. Men love differently. And whatever it is, male love is also love. And if you understand exactly how a man loves, you will find out if he really gives you all of himself. Is it possible to find out if he loves you? - Yes. Typically a loving man does three things.
Declares
Pay attention to how your loved one introduces you to other people: their friends, business partners or relatives. If he says, for example: “This is my girlfriend / baby / beloved” - in one word he gives you a title that goes beyond the notorious friend zone, it means he loves you. If a man calls you “his,” it means he really thinks so and informs everyone about it, because his intentions are serious and pure.
If he introduces you as a friend or simply calls you by name, be sure that it is so - you are just his friend. Deep down in your soul, you know this yourself, right?
But as soon as he gives you any title, you immediately understand that the man is making a statement. He declares his intentions towards you.
Provides
As soon as a man claims his rights to you, he immediately begins to earn money exclusively for you. After all, now you are his family. The primary purpose of a man is to be a breadwinner and provider. A man who tries to force the idea of equality and financial independence on you is simply fooling you. A man who is able to provide for his woman and children always feels more significant than one who lives for himself. If you feel that he is doing less for your relationship than he could, he is not a man, or rather, he is not your man. Of course, today we often hear from some men that modern women some kind of selfish, almost extortionist. And often we have to prove the sincerity of our feelings, without pretending to anything. But in fact, this is a trick created by men without serious intentions: this way they can save their money and get everything they need from a woman. What if your man has no money? He will still do everything to satisfy your needs. He will help and try for you in everything.
Protects
If a man loves you, he will crush anyone who dares to think badly of you and somehow offend you. If you have been offended, a loving man will go and stand up for you and your honor. Any self-respecting man will protect what belongs to him. If, in response to a terrible story about how someone insulted you, he just shakes his head or even gets angry, but does not take any action, something is wrong. When a man loves, most likely, you won’t even want to talk about the fact that someone offended you, because he will go to sort it out, and we all understand that this could end badly.
Of course, defense is not only the use of brute physical strength. A man who truly loves protects you in other ways: he can give valuable advice or volunteer to do something that, in his opinion, is unsafe for you. He will never send you to the store late at night or to walk the dog, he will do everything himself, even if he hasn’t slept for more than two days.
Ladies pay special attention to how their loved one affectionately calls them. Some men prefer the classic “sweetie” or “dear”, others try to be more original by using the names of animals or sweets. A word used incorrectly towards a woman can forever close the path to her heart. Psychologists have long discovered the fact that a man’s attitude can be recognized by the nickname he chose for his lady.
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Many men prefer to use familiar affectionate words. And they are more pleasant for women because they do not cause ambiguous associations.
Darling
This is what self-confident Don Juans call lovely representatives of the fair sex. This is an assertive heart conqueror who will stop at nothing to achieve his goal. He prefers to play, either attracting a woman or pushing her away, as if there was nothing between them.
“Beloved” is called a cunning man, capable of thinking through his actions and the actions of a woman several steps ahead. He can really truly fall in love with his chosen one and experience sincere feelings. But, realizing that the woman needs him, he will most likely leave.
A guy kisses a girl on the lips and other places - what does this mean?
Expensive
Boring in everything and everywhere - this is how you can describe a guy who calls his soulmate “darling.” Routine life awaits a woman who chooses such a person. It would never even occur to him to add something new to life together. Very often he turns out to be boring not only at home, but also in bed. You shouldn’t expect any innovations or diversity from such a person. Very often he puts a taboo on everything that a woman offers.
Darling
The partner’s feelings are so great that he is unable to express them in words. A man is ready to take care of his chosen one for days on end, delighting her with all kinds of gifts.
My love
Men who call their chosen one this way are very easy and relaxed in communication. This is a wonderful boyfriend who puts the interests of the lady above his own. But such partners have a small disadvantage - they are usually very difficult to command. At the very first attempts to start “training” he will feel this and leave.
My soul
A guy who uses this nickname is a wonderful lifelong companion. He becomes attached to a woman very slowly. Such a person is in no hurry to immediately bare his soul. He chooses a measured path, when rapprochement occurs slowly and comfortably. He is also in no hurry to get physically close. Men of this type very often remain faithful to their partners to the end.
My girl
When a guy calls his chosen one “my girl” or “baby,” this only means one thing: he really experiences tenderness and tremulous feelings. The young man treats her like a child, trying in every possible way to protect her from the evil outside world.
Babe
Perhaps such a person likes specifics and does not want to complicate anything in a relationship. He expects the same from his woman. In a couple, he is used to always being the first, and does not tolerate it when a woman tries to take his place.
Durynda
This nickname, which is not entirely pleasant at first glance, says the opposite: a man is ready to forgive a woman for any mistake and take control of the situation.
Doll
“Doll” is what men who are only superficially interested in their ladies call their ladies. They like easy, non-committal relationships.
My little one or baby
They say those guys who are ready to take care of their girlfriend give all of themselves for this relationship. These are devoted men who can become a reliable wall for their lady.
Miracle
By calling a woman a “miracle,” a man is trying to attract her attention to himself and thus show the significance of this relationship for him.
"Zoo"
These are the most common variations of nicknames in the early stages of a romantic relationship. They are most often used by young couples, but sometimes persist into adulthood.
Bunny or hare
Very often, such men turn out to be insecure and withdrawn people. There is no need to expect dizzying surprises, warm confessions, or serenades under the window from him. He is incapable of serious actions. Because of their insecurity, such men often find themselves in ridiculous and shameful situations.
Martin
If a man says “swallow,” it means he is confident in the feelings of his other half. This relationship is serious for them.
Birdie
A cowardly man calls his lady “Bird”. He wants to show himself as an experienced gentleman who has had more than one woman, and then suddenly turns into a faithful companion. This happens not because of his high moral principles, but because of cowardice. At the slightest hint of a woman’s infidelity, he will want to take revenge on her. Although, with all its disadvantages, there is also a plus: such men are very good at lovemaking.
Sun
Cheerful and unpredictable representatives of the stronger sex call women “Sunshine”. “My sunshine,” a guy says when he experiences tender, sincere feelings for a girl. He wants to get to know her better, and deep down he hopes that she will become a good companion in the future.
Pussy, kitty and kitty
Men who call their women such nicknames do not pay attention to the little things in everyday life. These are very loving suitors. The intimate side of life is very important for them. You shouldn’t expect loud words with confessions or sincere feelings from him. Mutual satisfaction in bed is the only goal of such a relationship.
Toad
Such a man is very assertive and wants to get to know his chosen one quickly. Although, with all his enthusiasm, he does not value relationships too much. These are superficial representatives of the stronger sex who only need fun in life.
Chanterelle, little fox, fox
The attention of such a man was completely absorbed by his chosen one. He longs for her company and tries with all his might to keep her. However, he expects the same from her.
Goat
A man feels complete intimacy with his woman, although sometimes he is not averse to teasing her a little. You can expect sharp jokes from him, but the guy does not want to offend his beloved, but only tries to defuse the situation.
Sweets
Some men want to be more original and use the names of confectionery products in their nicknames.
Sweetie
Men who can take on the role of a father call their women “sweetie.” He will look after the lady for a long time, cherishing her in every possible way. Such men are faithful in married life and very rarely cheat on their chosen ones.
Sweetie
Guys who have nothing behind their souls. With such a man, no woman will feel protected. Such gentlemen completely irritate serious and confident ladies and make them angry. They inappropriately begin to quote the book they just read, and arrange duels to show their mental abilities. But all their actions are in vain.
Do you know how limitless men's cunning is? It would seem that intrigue, understatement and secrecy are the lot of women, whereas male half humanity is accustomed to thinking and acting clumsily. In fact, if a guy doesn’t want you to know about his true attitude towards you, he will resort to all sorts of tricks and tricks that his brain is capable of.
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But the trouble is that girls have long been able to solve all the charades, and they do not need words of love and confessions, because everything can be seen from the behavior of their opponent and his accidentally dropped phrases.
By showing a small amount of observation and attentiveness, you can understand exactly what feelings a man has for you, and how it will all end. We bring to your attention 9 signs that you have a new fan.
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Starts out as a comedic thriller and now becomes more serious. Two episodes a year, still a large construction site "Tattor" - events. It starts with the definition of a woman, as most of them see supermass, well resolved, full of love to give, with the courage to throw one's head into a relationship and with a "wise" answer on the tip of the tongue for everything. In most cases this is not supported by facts. Just because a girl happens to be a woman doesn't mean she is.
Talks about your future together
If a man not only says that he adores you, but also clearly imagines you living together, then it’s time to prepare for serious changes in your life.
Remember that it is extremely difficult for the strong half of humanity to transfer their “den” into neat female hands, and he thinks about a lot before speaking about her joint improvement. Do not underestimate this sign of falling in love, since you have been appreciated as a person capable of creating coziness, warmth and comfort in the home.
Just like women require men to have relationships, imprint, courage, initiative, pretense, good humor, beauty and intelligence. That's what it is, take a deep breath and accept it if you want to leave a friend. Legal: Nothing more unbearable than an impromptu, complaining, clingy, jealous girl all in one package. The girlfriend will probably say that she is only careful, caring, worried about what “her” and “blabla” are. If you won't stop complaining, how can he stand by someone who doesn't like varied scenarios, unusual routines, and a sidewalk bar?
Appearance is no longer important
Like a true male, the guy first loves with his eyes, and the “big-eyed” period can last quite a long time. But at one fine moment a man says that he doesn’t just love you for your size 4 breasts or slender legs, but for your ability to listen, advise and support.
And when they make it clear to you that your warmth is very highly valued, then you can be sure that they love you.
In bed you need motivation, because the reality is that there are three hundred periguetes that work like a jackhammer, if you don't have enthusiasm, it will be prohibited in the big face's selective criteria and will only become his friend's pussy, nothing more.
Average sex turns into “snacks” at best, as they say, only during the squeeze. Close-Knit Family: The person already has difficulty communicating in general when it comes to expressing feelings. Even those who have developed this ability will agree that much of being friendly with a girlfriend or wife will depend on interacting with her family. But it complicates things if a guy realizes that in addition to dealing with his natural complications as a woman, he will have to face a family without a sense of joy.
Soul wide open
If a man says that he misses you and shares his doubts, concerns, fears and problems with you without fear, he is definitely in love with you, and sincerely and for a long time.
If your candidacy seems worthy to a guy, he will dedicate you to the most painful and pitiful moments of his childhood, will not hesitate to divulge his romantic dreams and will not be afraid to be clumsy or funny.
He can immediately smell complications, especially if, in addition to his mother calling 28 times in a ballad, you answer 35 times. Don't feed this unhealthy interaction with people at home. Bonita: Yes, there is no more excuse, today there are millions of resources, paid or free, to improve the visual experience. There is no use in diving into the ugly duckling of saying that no one loves you because it will only leave a worse impression on the person. He's always thinking about presenting to his friends, and the fear is, "Where did you find this junk?" Perhaps, but it is not so stupid, beauty, which is also reflected in personal care, evokes admiration and warmth in a person, especially in a person.
It's boring without you
More recently, a man tried with all his might to demonstrate his independence, self-reliance and disinterest. Now your ICQ simply cannot accommodate his compliments, he often calls and openly declares that he is unbearably bored without your company. And if you like all this, then another couple has matched.
Vivid: Imagine walking next to a person without any personal expression, who is always trapped and afraid of the opinions of others? Personal monotony is not something anyone admires, and in a woman it becomes even more alarming. Personal brilliance means that a woman has her own life, she knows how to include herself, but she cannot do without help, support and pleasant company.
Pampered, brilliant, deceptive, masculine and chilikent are just a few attributes associated with selfishness. It feels like a bottomless emotional bag, nothing is enough. The problem is that many self-centered women imagine themselves as super generous when in fact they are not.
Your mistakes become invisible
Remember how, when going on your first date, you tried to look as chic, extravagant, cute, elegant, and so on as possible. A guy in love stops idealizing his chosen one, since only natural feelings give him the strength to come to terms with flaws.
He will never reproach you for having too much cake or wearing too provocative an outfit, he will not smirk if you had to twist your ankle in an unbearably high stiletto heel, and he will criticize your position regarding a particular political party.
But when she has a truly generous heart, she is irresistible, inspiring confidence, ease and the ability to look beyond herself. How will a guy feel comfortable turning his back? Maybe he won't even come close, since he will always think that his friends will talk bad or make fun of him.
Weird friends can be scary, it's better to surround yourself with mature friends and let you down. Full life: Nothing is more aphrodisiac than a happy woman. A happy woman enchants, spreads vibrancy, strength, confidence, love and energizes environment. A man would prefer this type of woman rather than a nag who feeds on a mediocre life. Even if you can't bear it, why would a person stand? In doubt it will make you a best friend, never a companion for long!
They started listening to you carefully
When a guy really adores you, he stops spouting witty thoughts, telling jokes and amusing you with funny incidents from own life. He begins to understand that he needs to listen to you, even if the facts you present have long been known to everyone and are uninteresting.
Essentially, a woman who is in touch with her femininity and is mature enough not to use ready-made formulas and knows how to handle flexibility in double-life situations will always be a good candidate. Self improvement is keyword, neither he nor anyone will want to spend much time without it.
If you want to have a relationship you must know to flow with its action and most of the women shown are so hardened and fireproof that they did not notice what was made possible by company and a “friend”, but nothing more. What exactly do men - and often women themselves - mean when they call someone that?
If a guy really loves, he doesn't just listen, he hears, gives good advice, does not interrupt, provides an opportunity to speak out to the end and shares his thoughts.
Help and surprises
You can tell if a man loves you in one way simple method: Ask him to take you to the airport or train station during rush hour or the middle of the workday. A true chosen one will definitely find a way to help you and share your worries, anxieties and difficulties.
“This girl is the biggest pirigeta,” one guy says in the ballad, pointing to the “bitch.” “You’re feeling a little horny today, aren’t you?” Comments friend after you say you're in a flirty mood. And also that we already use these curses to talk about several girls that we are not dating.
Disclosure It seems that inventing names to classify women is normal. Well, have you heard anyone mention that the buzzard pirouettes? The one who catches everyone, as you know, has dinner. In Brazil, women are even worse. Thus, they are called by the names of a number of errors. The only name used for them is deer. Because when a person is called a chicken, it is not humiliating, explains the philosopher.
Remember, if a guy appears nearby only in moments of joy or abundance, then he will not make a reliable life partner. is a person capable of a multi-step and top-secret operation, the main goal of which is to give you a surprise.
Moreover, this can manifest itself in a completely unusual form: a shelf will appear in the refrigerator filled with your favorite diet yogurt, tickets to a concert will appear on the table, or freshly cooked chicken soup will appear on the stove. Only those who sincerely love and want to be loved can provide all these signs of attention.
It's easy to say, but if Ivete Sangalo, from the top of his pedestal, said that he was piercing, well, it shouldn't be so bad. First conclusion: calling someone from pirigete is easy. If you call yourself a pirigete, same thing. The one who says: “piri, piri, pirigues.” Piriguet, he has a very clear understanding of music, a dangerous woman that men should take care of. Who likes to call themselves free?
Finally, philosopher Mario Sergio Cortella remembers the first time he heard this expression: “It was supposed to be about prostitutes in El Salvador.” Even because we recognize prostitutes as a class. Calling it pirigete is worse. These girls are considered a threat because they break with the alliance they form with other women. Female friendship- a very powerful thing and full of rules. One friend, for example, does not stay with a friend of a friend.
How to answer?
We are all accustomed to the fact that we have to pay for everything in this life. For one - with your health, for another - with money, for the third - with personal time.
Therefore, it is not at all surprising that even the most loving man will not last long without your response and, preferably, a positive reaction, and therefore:
Piriguet remains, and that is why he is considered so dangerous and treacherous, says Diana. For him, the expression is always offensive. Today, piercing means a woman who is dangerous or in danger. The meaning is always offensive. Except when the expression is used by a person who believes that he has been "targeted" by a pirigete.
In this case, he feels good because his self-esteem grows. The singer is not put off by the sexual tone given to the term. If pirigete is a word for a woman who stays with what she wants, then good. The world is so macho that if it is so great that it is called pirigeta, says Karina. Next time you call a pirigete girl, think about death for them. Now, if you use this term to talk about you, we think you should accept Karina Boer's theory and think that this is the maximum.
- Learning to give compliments. Yes, yes, men simply adore them, although they don’t show it. But before you compliment your man, try to choose words that will not offend or offend him in any way. It is best to admire courage, reliability, strength, gallantry and everything like that;
- You can’t be silent in bed, just enjoying the process or waiting for it to end. Be sure to respond to kind words, even if you have no idea what to say to your man in bed. If you don’t have much imagination, call him by name, say exciting phrases and ask him what he would like at the moment. It is clear that sex cannot be turned into a full-fledged kitchen dialogue;
- If your goal is to maintain and enhance your existing relationship, it is important to remember that you should never tell your man. We advise you not to talk about previous relationships, not to compare him with other suitors, not to ask for a fur coat instead of a new car, and not to invite him to tea with his friends if there is a football match on TV;
- Excessive protectiveness in public is also an example of what you should not say to your men. You should not reproach them for drinking or eating too much, clumsy dancing or unnoticed curbs. All this can be said when you get home, if until then it continues to seem important and worthy of a quarrel.
Of course, a woman’s life would become much easier if there were a visual list of what words she should say to her man, and what words it would be better to completely remove from her vocabulary. But in this case, the opportunity to get to know each other better and test the relationship for strength and endurance would be lost.
He is usually found in high-alcohol nightclubs, smiling while performing sensual choreographies on the dance floor. Depending on the degree of pyrigitism, he attacks boys, who are enthusiastically accepted by a large part of the male population. Pedro Nesling, actor.
This is a girl who is in danger, who wants to give. Ronaldo Bressan, journalist and writer. Nun of the Sisters Strastiora congregation. "Pirigete is a child whore, that's the point, but now they call grown girls pirigete too." Security of the Capera Libero Foundation.
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Rule 1. A man delineates boundaries and demonstrates “his”
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A loving man is able to create a kind of invisible “magnetic field” around you, which repels other contenders for your attention, for your hand and heart, and even more so for other parts of the body. For us, such applicants are border violators. Our border!
To prevent these intruders from getting too close to the woman, the man demonstrates that this “territory” is already reserved for him. That this is “my girl”, “my Natalie”, etc. He will not only call you his, but also hug you in public for the same purpose or possessively take away all the bags that fit anything heavier than a purse and sunglasses. His message to those around him is this: let everyone see, she’s mine, don’t come near me! Behind this lies the same meaning as behind road sign, popularly called “brick”. But his actions must be combined with words about “belonging” to him, otherwise hugs in the middle of the subway may simply mean nothing when a week later you or he are hugging someone else.
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Listen as we introduce you to friendly party, in his party, his mother, finally, if by chance or not, it came to this... As a rule, a woman is for a man exactly what he called her, introducing her to his surroundings.
In addition, those around him easily notice his gestures, signs of attention, casual phrases addressed to her. How he looks at her, how he talks to her, whether he helps her fit into the new environment. All this shows how this girl fits into his plans for the future. If you yourself feel that after six months of meetings you are not closer to him socially, then something is wrong. You don’t know his friends, relatives, you haven’t been to a single birthday or just a party, you haven’t relaxed together on a free day, in a conversation with work colleagues he simply calls you “Mary”... It’s worth putting him in front of him - but first Just in front of me are some questions. What's next, what are the prospects for the development of your relationship, where is your place in it, is there an alternative?
If you have been dating a man for three months and during this time you have not met his friends, at least partially his relatives, you have never been together on a weekend, you have not gone on nature trips or birthday parties, you have not gone to any interesting places , be it a museum, cinema or Christmas market, art exhibition or sport competitions, if acquaintances or work colleagues know you only by name, then it is obvious that he does not see you in his future. And it’s the other way around, if you visited places that are significant to him and he assigned you some kind of “title” in front of people that are significant to him - well, at least he said “my girlfriend.”
Rule 2. A man helps financially
If you reciprocate his intentions about a future together, the guy begins to demonstrate the seriousness of these intentions - to work to ensure this very future. You are always interested in descending from heaven to earth on time and bringing down a man who claims rights to you. You women are often practical, unlike us men, and ask us questions in response to the intention to start living together: where, on what and how will we actually live? It often happens that you come across an empty-headed dreamer who is not yet ripe for family life, or simply a chatterbox who promises a lot, but has no idea how to realize his and your dreams in practice. Perhaps you, too, are hovering in such romantic clouds that love keeps you from escaping, and the hope of correcting, teaching, re-educating a dreamer or talker is the last to die and overshadows the eternal female instinct of stability. But know: a man who truly loves you will himself, without reminders, drag everything into the house, into the family.
A man's goal is to be sure that his woman and his children have everything they need: housing, food, clothing, the opportunity to study, funds for entertainment and the most comfortable life possible. Confidence in this gives each of us peace of mind. If a man feels that he cannot properly provide for his loved ones, this makes him insecure and restless. The feeling of our own powerlessness in any matter, when it is impossible to feel like a real breadwinner for our relatives, turns us into notorious neurasthenics.
These are the centuries-old traditions of society: man is the breadwinner, woman is the keeper of the hearth. Despite technological progress and the emancipation of women, this remains in men, and nothing has actually changed for us. If his woman suddenly starts earning more than himself, he may be happy for her, but something in him protests.
When a man is forced to accept his secondary role as a breadwinner, male pride suffers. Some men begin to feel like their wife’s big children if they have to rely on her money, plus her connections, talents and organization. By the way, this is where many men’s bad habits stem from. A man feels complete only when he can provide (and not only financially) for his loved ones.
Look at how your man behaves. Does he pay for electricity, water and gas, children’s education, buy and bring food? Does he remember to save money for the next renovation and a joint trip to the sea in the summer? Does he spend money on all sorts of nonsense and does he allow you to spend it on himself? Does he strive to earn more or does he expect this desire from you? If you constantly have to beg him for money, not for what he considers whims and excesses, but for the most necessary things, then it is unlikely that this person really loves you. A loving man will understand the needs of his woman, especially the paramount ones. You don’t forget to express your joy, admiration, and approval to him every time, do you? But each of your praise is extremely important for him as a breadwinner. She warms his male pride - if, of course, he is a real man. In this case, his own needs will fade into the background for him, and the needs of the family will always be in the foreground. If you see that this is not the case and that the situation is not going to improve, my advice to you is to pick up your stuff and run as far as possible from such a potential life partner!
It can be difficult for a modern woman to accept the idea that it is extremely important for a man to provide a woman with the necessary benefits. Men like it when women depend at least a little on men, when men earn, organize, get, find, bring, throw at their feet... Honestly, this feeling of one’s own strength and ability to solve all issues is damn nice for men! But the world has now turned upside down, and women no longer rely on men. If she experiences any difficulties, she will no longer say: “Maybe I should get married?”, but will say: “Maybe I should change jobs?” She herself will grab a ton of products from the store and hammer in the nails herself. Bravo, miss, this is worthy of respect! But she is unlikely to think about the simple idea that her actions may cause an internal protest among the majority of members of the opposite sex.
It is clear that, taught by the bitter experience of their own or other people’s mothers, who experienced tragic divorces and were left without money, and grandmothers who saw years of war, when it was impossible to rely on men, women of the new generation will never count on a man for key things. This is probably correct, because, let’s face it, there is logic in this. This triggers, if you like, your instinct of self-preservation (and procreation, what can I say).
But! All the same, admit the thought that the time will come when you won’t have to drag all this cart yourself. Most of the load from this cart will be taken by someone and put on his cart, and it will not be a friend, mother, kind aunt or someone else like that, but a man. Real and loving to you.
If a man does not make sure that you have shelter, food, everything you need, so that you are, if not in heaven, then at least relatively happy with everything, then do not forget that he will probably someday do all this for some some other woman. This behavior is simply dictated by a man’s nature.
It is clear that not all of us can provide you at the proper level - the way we ideally imagine it ourselves. Some lack knowledge, skills, diplomas, some character traits, some other resources... But there is another category of men - a man who evades. These are gigolos or egoists, and sometimes they are simply not fulfilled as individuals and therefore are not yet quite men. However, we must also admit that there are also simply stupid men who do not understand the significance of their male role. (It is in this case that the riddle is most easily resolved: you have nothing to expect from life with a stupid person.)
So, let’s leave those who are stupid, selfish and who have not matured spiritually enough to become breadwinners. Now let's deal with the rest.
Our attempts to provide for you sometimes fail. If we can't do it the way we think we should, it ultimately leads to a terrible feeling of inadequacy. As we have already mentioned, from this feeling grow many bad habits, the most common of them are drunkenness, drugs and gambling in casinos. But that’s not all: a sense of inferiority leads to crimes, the most “harmless” of which is petty theft. And sometimes things get serious. What happens? He committed to love and provide - instead he became an alcoholic. He undertook to groom and cherish - instead he went to prison. Yes, the picture is not so rare, right? But there is a third possibility of such a collapse of male usefulness: he took up the tug and, feeling that he was not strong, ran away. He took it and made legs... How many women raise children alone? How many of these children do not see enough food, clothing, books?
Is it that the war has swept through and killed the men, or what? Maybe the devastation in the world after a global catastrophe? No, no, thank God! And God forbid, as they say. The picture is exactly this: men, or rather, part of them, cannot withstand what is traditionally imposed on them by society. And at the same time they experience their inadequacy. This, alas, is true!
We are not talking now about those who consciously, by their own choice, do not want to share their goods with other people, even with loved ones (“loved ones”, I think, does not apply here). A selfish person is most likely not ready for normal outside relationships. I’m not ready yet, and maybe not for life. He is always ready to take, take, take, without giving anything in return. But even in nature there is a cycle of water, energy and substances in living organisms. Relationships are also a kind of system and organism; without the exchange of energies, it dies.
These are selfish men who came up with the term “extortionist”, not wanting or not having enough wealth to treat a lady to coffee, invite her to a movie or a restaurant. Perhaps the feminist movement played a significant role in this ideology of the new generation - every man for himself. They have it too" separate meals"Welcome.
Let’s not deny that there are also a lot of women who start relationships and enter into arranged marriages. At least they exist and have been at all times. But some men are ready to accuse every woman they meet of extortion! Well, the goal of twirling women and saving your money on a woman is clear. But a woman has every right to expect from a man material compensation for the time spent on him: payment for tickets, trips, movies, gifts, in the end. It is important for a man to feel that you need him. If this is not important to him, this is either not your man, or not a man in the full sense of the word. Be careful with this one!
The easiest way to show that you need us is to give us the opportunity to provide you with anything you need. This is exactly how a real man will feel. The fake one will run away or evade. Here's your indicator.
If a man loves you, he will not spend money in an unknown place, and then complain that there is none because he doesn’t get enough. Love presupposes responsibility “for those who have been tamed.” Men love to feel responsible, smart, strong! Don't believe me? But this is true!
He won't burden you with men's problems. If your car breaks down, you don’t have to fix it yourself, and even if he is not a born auto mechanic, and there is no money to pay an auto mechanic, what do you think he needs friends for? Do you need to fix a faucet and he is not a plumber? He will find a way to do it! Have you decided to paint the fence around your house an unimaginable color? Since we are delighted with this, he will ask for a second brush, or even completely remove you from participating in the process, sending you to prepare something to chew. And if you need to thin paint or, God forbid, knock out one picket fence, you don’t have to run around the whole block looking for a hammer, because you had one lying around in the garage somewhere, but you don’t remember where, and you only remember what the hammer is for looks like the letter "T". He will solve such a trivial problem, rest assured!
Rule 3. A man protects you
There are situations when you can immediately draw “conclusions” about whether they love you or not: situations of threat.
It is not necessary that someone will threaten you directly. This could be verbal abuse, an attempt to drag you into something bad, simple pestering, ridicule, or someone's stupid joke. But for a loving man, each of these and similar situations are types of threat against you. He will react accordingly to this.
In the male understanding, no one should encroach on their woman and everything connected with her. Otherwise, the male reaction is one - defense. And if necessary, punish the offender. In other words, touch it and you will pay, villain!
Even in early childhood, boys are known to be more attached to their mother than girls. Later, this affection develops into a desire to always defend her if anyone tries to speak ill of her. We can say that the role of a protector in men is inherent in nature itself. Those we love are “ours” for men, which means we are fully responsible for this “ours”. There are women who call this possessiveness of men. We cannot say that they are wrong: yes, men are indeed owners to one degree or another. But men will always protect their property. If you want freedom, and you don’t want to be property in any way, in any form - free will, but... it’s a pity. After all, from now on you will have to defend yourself. There will be no one to say when they hear that you have taken a defensive position on the phone: “Who is this? Come on, give it to me!” - although this may just be your boss calling to give you some instructions that will make your world start to speed up. And you won’t give up the phone so that they don’t break your world’s neck. He can scold the child for not helping his mother around the house, but he will do this not because he does not feel sorry for your sixth-grader - he feels sorry for you! He longs for your release!
Protecting your woman, family, children, property is higher than the ability to provide for you; this is no longer food for pride, but an indicator of respect. And self-respect, which is important. No, there are, of course, men who are indifferent to this, whose pride and self-respect are silent, but such people are especially not respected and loved not only by a woman, but also by no one else. This did not develop over years or decades, but over centuries: a man has always been considered protection, hope and support. Have you ever noticed how your conversation usually happens with a man who loves you, for whom you belong?
If this is your uncle, your husband or a guy you are recently dating, or an old friend, you will subconsciously share with him either the problem of the current moment, or a question that is tormenting you. You can say that you are afraid of something or that you were attacked by drunken people yesterday. bus stop, you can answer his question: “How are you?” blurt out something like: “Oh, the shelf in the bathroom collapsed!” - “Really?” - your uncle, dad, fiance or brother will smile. (You often surprise us with your spontaneity.) And right off the bat - you'll see! - will offer something. Who hung that shelf? When will you be home, when will I come see you? Are there any nails in the house? What about the hammer? If he doesn’t ask, then either he doesn’t really like or value you, or he suspects that you don’t know what a hammer is.
A man can protect you different ways, sometimes somewhat inconsistent with generally accepted norms. Speaking without embellishment, he can punch someone in the face or give someone a good shake by the collar. Or at least threaten to do so. This formidable determination is often quite enough to make it clear to the offender that they are not joking with him.
But brutality and physical impact are not at all required. Much more important is the daily desire to protect your energy, time, mood, health and safety. He sprinkles sand on the paths in your yard country house, although tired after a long journey, he is not indifferent to the prospect of your falling and, God forbid, injury, and he strives to protect you from this. Does he take everything heavy from your hands, walk through a dark neighborhood to the store himself, and at the first opportunity drop you off at work in his car, if you don’t have a car, a license, or the desire to get up early and take the bus? You see, all this is not without reason...
Nowadays, women often sigh and complain that there are no real men left. Every now and then we listen to stories with the conclusion that “without us these men are completely incapable of anything.” The truth is that men have a strong internal reason not to do things that bring them closer to the standard." a real man" This reason is that women do not require effort in this direction. And no one demands.
The main thing is to understand that men are completely different creatures than WOMEN, and therefore men’s love is not the same as women’s. For the “stronger” sex, love is divided into three components: I declare it, I provide it, and I protect it.
You won't be able to chat with men about new makeup trends. Men will not go with you to choose new shoes and a stunning blouse. But they will happily take you to a social party in this very makeup and in these very shoes that appeared without them, in order to be next to you when everyone, admiring you, will begin to envy them. A real man will not cross-stitch with you, but he will provide you with enough threads and needles and everything you need.
A man claims you, provides for you, and protects you when he loves you. If he doesn't do this, but you act as if his behavior suits you, then it won't last as long as you would like. After all, it is unknown whether a man will remember how a real man should act. He can remember this, but with another woman.
There are several phrases that a man says only when he really likes a woman:
Women have a whole arsenal of phrases that we say when we don't like a man. We use body language, eye rolling, to show an unwanted man that he is not welcome.
But what about men? They have a reputation as the less talkative sex, although in fact they tell us quite a lot, we’re just not always ready to hear what we really don’t want to hear.
But there are a few phrases that a man says only when he really likes a woman:
1. “That reminded me of you.”
He may not always say what he thinks about you in order to hide his feelings and not be straightforward. But he will talk about things that remind him of you because he really wants you to know about it.
2. “I can help you with that.”
Men like to feel needed. He wants to be useful to you. And if he offers help, it means he cares about you. Men are ready to do something for those they care about, for whom they have their own special plans.
3. “You look great.”
If a man tells you this, stop wondering what he means. He really thinks you look great and he wants you to know it.
4. “I was talking to my mother...”
If he mentions his mom and tells you what she told you, he or your best friend, or he likes you. Men rarely share what is happening in their family, especially with their mother. Therefore, if he tells you about this, it means you have a special level of trust with him.
5. “I’m upset/I’m worried.”
6. “Where have you been? How are you?"
This seems like the easiest way to start a conversation, but does everyone start one with you? No. Only the one who is really interested in you and who wants to get to know you better and show his interest.
7. “You are so sexy.”
Well, this is an obvious compliment that is not given to every girl, but only to the one who is really attractive. He may not be serious, but he clearly doesn’t care about you.
8. “I noticed that you...”
If a man says that he noticed something in what you do, say, dress, eat, then he really pays attention to you, what kind of person you are, what interests you - and not because he wants to be your best friend...
9. “I miss you.”
Men rarely say this, and if they do, they probably mean a lot of feelings that they don’t know how to express correctly.
10. “I’ll be there.”
“If anything happens, I’m nearby”, “Do you have someone to talk to about this?”, “I’m always happy to listen”, “Let’s talk” - with all this he shows that he wants to be a part of your life.
